To be happy with what you have sometimes takes a whole lot of hard work. You want more in life and it feels as if happiness is always one step further away. At the time of writing this post however the World is under a Global Pandemic for Coronavirus and there is no better time to remind ourselves to be happy with what you have.
Sometimes however being grateful for what we have in life can make us feel better about the situation we are actually in. It is quite a common saying that people say be grateful because others are less fortunate than you, but it doesn’t often make you feel better. So follow the tips below to make sure you become grateful with what you have in life.
My Top Tips On How Tp Be Happy With What You Have
Write down everything good that has happened in your life – quite often or not we tend to live in the moment rather than think about the good things that have happened before. So if you are finding it is tough times at the moment, think back with fond memories about those little things that made you smile.
Materialistic things will not make you happy – new cars, clothes, houses are all temporary feelings of happiness. They will not give you ever lasting joy, mainly because you will get bored of them after a while. So always dream big about money and things you want I use the law of attraction for this you can find here. It is really okay to want more, but you do have to be happy with what you have and grateful of where you are to bring new things that you want into your life also.
Concentrate on your relationships – we all know that partnerships can be tested at times. But if you were in love once you certainly can be again. Be grateful to your partner for all the great things they bring into your life and don’t concentrate on the things they do to annoy you. Life is about compromise and you will never get everything you want 100% of the time and sometimes you have to give to receive.
Be grateful for your kids if you have them – Jeez no one really tells you how hard work kids can be but boy they will test you along the way through life. We always have to keep in mind however that we created them, they are apart of us, so hug them, talk to them, understand them, educate them and just be grateful you have that little part of you walking around this lovely planet.
If your life is stagnating do something about it – Sometimes we go through stages where life just seems to pass us by and we become unhappy and stuck with where we are. If you don’t know what to do with your life then visit this link. Look back and see how far you have come in life but work out a pathway to where you also want to be.
Be grateful for small things – Sometimes we so caught up in social media, work and everything else that demands our time nowadays. Get outside and have some time on your own and just breathe, listen to your thoughts and appreciate that the World is your oyster if you want it to be.
You can have anything in life if you want it badly enough – If you dreams, wants and desires, go out there and get them. Once you start achieving your goals it is easy to become happy with what you have because you will be getting and obtaining everything you need and want in life. Nobody is going to do it for you though unfortunately, you really do have to get out there and make life work for you.
Realize that everything could change in a flash – Sometimes life can throw us such a curveball that we can lose everything. Read my story about how I lost everything and bounced back here. You see we can be sitting there one day and lose a loved one the next, our job, our friends, family and that is why we should really be grateful for everything we have and not live unhappily because of the things we don’t have. Because if you envisaged your life without everything you have today, what would that look like?
Give love and spread happiness – There is no better feeling than being loved, it is what everyone wants in life. We grow up as babies with our mums holding and cuddling us, then as adults we are throw to the wolves, with a partner that may not treat us right, friends who want to hurt you, but equally everyone wants love and it is normally through hatred that people turn against this. When you however give love to people you will have a warm glowing feeling that you are a great person and contributing to adding value to others peoples lives. When you become happy again life is so much easier to be grateful for what you have.
I know all the above sounds easy but life is to be lived, every breath you take should be taken as if it is your last. You should love unconditionally and be kind to others despite how others treat you. Don’t let your past dictate your future and do not let one person skew your judgement of others either. One person might absolutely love you another might hate you but that is there problem not yours.
You might not want much in life apart from to be happy and that really does come from you. Even in the darkest times such as we are going through now people help each other and we witness pure acts of kindness. Yes there are others who are panic buying and acting like idiots but these are the types of people you stay away from in life and try not to become.
Be yourself at all times and do not change for anyone and once you find your love for yourself you will never wonder how to be happy with what you have again. So I wish you all the very best in the future and if you haven’t joined my transformation program yet, head over today and get started. Best wishes always Scott
If you want to live a happy life and enjoy every day that you walk on this amazing planet then I have some great tips for you below. As we speak we are going through a Global Pandemic with coronavirus which is very unsettling for lots of people as it makes its way across the Globe but you can stay happy with these tips.
If You Want To Live A Happy Life Tips
Do not do what everyone else is doing. They live their own lives and have their own views. You are an independent person and you should make your own pathway and follow your own dreams in life.
Life is meant to be lived. For everyday that you wake up unhappy you are missing out on lots of things in life that can make you happy.
Happiness is a choice. We all have stresses, responsibilities, issues, anxiety but it is how we respond to these things that ultimately makes us who we are.
Keep smiling things do and can always get better. You just have trust and believe that when you are having a bad day, it is just a bad day and it will soon clear.
Have faith in yourself and what you are here for. We all have a purpose in life and a gift. We all have people around us that would not want to live without us. So think about and be grateful for all those friendships and relationships and put a smile on your face.
If you keep telling yourself you are unhappy, you will be unhappy. The more we tell ourselves the same thing over and over again, our minds are then convinced that, that really is the case.
See the positives in things rather than the negatives. Don’t open conversations with people about other people. Slagging people off or negativity just comes back through Karma. So be kind to others, we never know why people react sometimes the way they do, but most people do not purposely mean to be rude or unkind, it is just quite often they are under certain stresses and strains. So try to be understanding and see why they are acting that way rather than judging them.
Jump out of bein in the morning with a massive smile on your face. Make everyday one that you are excited about. It doesn’t matter if you know its going to be a crappy day, convince yourself and your mind that you are going to have a great day regardless of what happens.
Give love and kindness to others. This is a great way of making yourself happy. To see a smile on someone else’s face as a result of something you have done for them can be the most amazing feeling.
Dance around the house like no one is looking, or at the bust stop, or in the local shop. When I went to the Caribbean a few times, you see families dancing outside their little huts and houses. It is lovely to see and a little dance with yourself or friends is bound to put a smile on your face.
Day dream, dream about all the things in life you want and how you can achieve them. They might seem far fetched but believe me if you want something badly enough then you will work hard enough to get it.
Just have fun, look around you and see the beauty all around you. Smile take it in with a deep breath and think wow I am so glad to be alive. No one can make you feel like this apart from yourself.
So they are my top tips if you want to live a happy life. You have to really understand that life really is what you make it though. If you sit around moping thinking life is crap, then it really will be. If you sit down around dreaming off what life could be like and then get stuck in making it a happy life then it will happen too.
What if everything in your life was just a thought? What if it really was a bit like the matrix, that every thought you had would come true. What if the dreams you have at night are the actual pathway to where your life is heading?
Well like is like that because when you control your own thoughts, you control your own destiny, you can only have responsibility for your own actions. When you go out there take life by the balls, accept failure and just keep moving forward you will eventually get what you were looking for and live a happy life.
To “find someone who makes you happy” is the topic for today. All of us in life want to be happy and finding someone that can make your life complete should be one of the top things on your agenda to do.
You see love is an amazing feeling, sharing your dreams and life with someone that will fill your heart with glee will bring an amount of happiness in your life that you will never be able to replace. Combine that with finding happiness wherever you go will ensure you will live a complete and fulfilled life.
Before I give you my top tips on finding someone you can be happy with, let me tell you my story. You see I am now on my 3rd wife and before you jump to conclusions none of the relationships ending was any of my fault. Sometimes you just settle for okay rather than for what is absolutely magnificent.
My 3rd wife is the most precious, beautiful and amazing person that I have ever met. I am not just saying that because she is my wife either because if she wasn’t she would still be my best friend and someone that I truly admire in everyway. She spreads happiness, kindness and love to everyone and asks for nothing in return. I truly inspiring women and that is where I get my tips for you from today.
Find Someone Who Makes You Happy Top Tips
Never settle for second best – You will will absolutely know when you meet someone that they are right for you in everyway. They will fill your soul with so much joy you will overlook everything that normally would or could annoy you. If you find yourself getting annoyed with them for any reason in the early stages, then move on.
Don’t be scared to let them down – Often or not we might meet someone that we think is amazing but there are things that we don’t feel comfortable with. Then we get caught in a trap over letting them down and stay with them because we cannot cope in giving them bad news. Don’t do it the sooner you let them down the better, as an y doubts in your mind means this is not the relationship for you.
Get online and meet people – Don’t get me wrong there are some weirdo’s online and plenty of people that will not quite tell you the truth about themselves either. There are however plenty of people out there that are genuinely looking to find someone to make them happy however and are the muts nuts. I met my wife online and it was love at first sight so give it a whirl and follow my tips below.
Look for people with common values – The law of attraction can play a big role in finding someone to make you happy read more about that here. It is all about attracting what you want and you should use it to your advantage. When looking for someone though don’t necessarily look for someone with similar interests. Having different interests is great for conversation and sometimes you do need to do things separately so that you have some space. If you don’t find someone with the same common values however you could be let down in the future by some of their viewpoints. Whilst it is great to understand other people’s values if they do not think the same as you in this area it can be a great barrier.
Make sure they make you laugh – Laughter is one of the greatest things you can do in life so make sure that your new partner is one who puts a smile on your face every time you see them.
Imagine what they will look like – This will probably sound strange but when I was online dating the last time. I wrote down all the attributes of the person I was looking for. Everything I wanted in and how they could make me happy again. When you envisage this it makes it so much easier when you find the right person to go WOW you are it.
Give everything you can to the relationship – Relationships are give and take and when you are trying to find someone to make you happy, you need to make sure they make you happy too. When relationships become one sided and the other person doesn’t give back it makes things really difficult as the other person will soon get fed up with it.
Find someone who knows what they want – This is paramount as someone else who thinks like you rather than someone who doesn’t know what to do with their life. Will just mean that they do not get the WOW factor when they see you.
Learn to communicate with each other – This is really important as you will both pee each off at times and this is just to be expected. What matters however is how you make it up to each other afterwards. If you can talk about situations and see things from their point of view then it will open your eyes to the fact that everyone sees and hears situations differently than you do. So you might not even meant to upset them but they might have taken offence to something. If you let them tell you why it upset them and understand you will both live a much happier life.
Don’t be scared to give your heart – Every thought and feeling we have, we create within our own minds. So if you are worried about giving your heart and getting let down, then let go of these feelings. When you give your heart freely on the expectation that if you get let down you can move on and make things better with someone else, you have a freedom to be yourself.
Always be yourself – Your partner in crime should love you for every inch of who you truly are. You shouldn’t have to lie about things to impress them. They should be naturally impressed with you anyway. They should also want you to grow into the person you truly are as when you are yourself you will have the biggest wings possible.
Don’t tell lies – Lies will always come back on you because if you tell to many prokies you won’t be able to remember them all and you will get caught out.
Keep trying – When my last wife left me I thought my life was officially over and I would never meet anyone that would give me what I need. I plucked up the courage however and pushed all the bitterness behind me and thank god I did. There is someone out there for you just keep looking.
Frequently asked questions about finding someone that makes you happy
How do you know if someone makes you happy? – When you go through life you will know when someone makes you happy simply because you will want to spend time with them. They will make your life complete and you know you will smile when you think about them. We all have that someone that we cannot do without and you will know they make you happy by the size of the smile they put on your face.
Can someone else make you happy? – The answer to this is yes, certain people in your life will make you happy. The important thing however is not to rely on them to make you happy, that is down to you. Your own happiness is important and you shouldn’t rely on others to only make you happy, they should just be a great addition to your own overall happiness anyway.
How do I make you happy? – This is a great question and you should ask it, not only of your partner, your kids and your boss to yourself as well. When you understand that providing happiness, kindness and love is the most important thing that makes most people tick you will be able to provide that happiness for them and yourself.
How do I know if I am in love? – You will know because your eyes will light up like they never have before. You will have this undeniable feeling that you cannot be away from this person and you will want to spend every minute you can with them. Things that would normally annoy you, just won’t with the person you love because they will provide everything you need to be happy in life. It is the greatest feeling ever and your partner should make you tingle all over at the site of them and when you are in love you never get bored of that person either.
How can I be happy when I have no friends? – That is a hard one because friends do come and go through life and whilst it might seem lonely at the moment your happiness is paramount. So do things where you have the opportunity to meet more people, like a class at the gym, a local club, groups on the internet. Once you find your clan of like minded people you will be happy that you went out your way to find them. We all go through stages in life when we have no friends. So keep smiling and believe that this will change and you will soon be sharing stories with your bestest in no time at all.
Finding someone you can be happy with really is such an important component in life and you shouldn’t stop trying. I put together my transformation program as I was pushing my life forward you can follow here https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk You can follow along as well because finding happiness in life is a combination of things that you need to do. The video series will definitely help you get to where you want to be.
So good luck in finding your ideal partner that makes you happy and I wish you all the very best in your future Scott.
Todays read is all about “how to find happiness” wherever you go. Finding happiness is easier than you think, but some of the time we get bogged down with life’s nudges and find it hard to see the brighter side of things. So today I am going to give you some top tips on finding happiness in yours and your families lives.
How To Find Happiness Tips And Tricks
Look on the bright side of life – yes I know sometimes life feels really hard and like you can’t cope but you have to remain optimistic. Every day is a new day with new adventures and if you follow the tips below then your life will change. I will discuss more about using the law of attraction in your life here.
Happiness comes from within – when you realize that happiness really does come from inside of you and that you control your own emotions and your own thoughts, then life starts to make sense. If someone upsets you it is your own dealing with these emotions that stop you moving forward and becoming happy. It is our own crazy thoughts that take what people have said personally.
Don’t rely on others to make you happy – Other people can either bring you up or bring you down. So ultimately you have to control your own happiness in order to stay on top of your emotions. Do not let others control whether you wake up with a smile on your face or not.
Try smiling at people – In todays day and age people walk around with the faces down looking at their phones and trying to avoid the world. There is nothing on social media that is more important than your own happiness. So keep your head up in the air and look around you at the people that have their heads held high too. Smile at them and wish them a great day. Ask them how they are. This is a really great way to find happiness inside and it will make you feel great. Try it and keep it up and notice how a bad mood can lift quite easily when other people smile at you.
Don’t live with regrets – It is easy to look back on past mistakes or the behaviour of others and judge that the same situation will reoccur in the future. It won’t there are millions of people on this planet so don’t let one individual skew your opinion about life. Some people are just born idiots and will hurt other people, but there are plenty more that will support you and love you. I just got married for the 3rd time and this time I know I have got it right as my new wife is just unbelievably amazing. But if I had off let my 2 previous wives put me off life, I would never off continued searching for the wife of my dreams. So live happy life with no regrets.
Don’t be moody – Nobody likes a moody bum. We all have to face our fears everyday, motivate ourselves, make ourselves happy and moodiness is for those times when you are on your own and you can think with clarity, sort your head out and bounce back. It is not for taking your moods out on others as this will just skew their thinking about you as a person.
Give love and create happiness – Love the people around you and show them your appreciation for their friendship. Give lots of hugs, big them up and support them. Tell them everything will be okay and you are there for them. Love is the greatest emotion and when you surround yourself with likeminded people you can have a hug fest and all feel great.
Know that tomorrow is a chance for things to improve – Sometimes we don’t know what to do with our lives. It could be that a disaster has struck, it could be you feel you are in a dead end job, it could be your family life is not great. But just envisage how you want the future to look like, write it down and read it daily. This will lift your emotions as you will be concentrating on what you want and not what you don’t want.
Be careful what you tell yourself – The one big thing you need to remember is the more you tell yourself something the more likely it is to happen. So if you tell yourself consistently you hate something, you are going to hate regardless if the situation changes because you then have to spend lots of time convincing yourself that the position has now changed. If you tell yourself positive things, yeah work is a bit crap today but tomorrow it will be awesome, you are exchanging negative thinking with a positive outlook. When you look at things from a positive aspect less things bother you and you attract more positive things in life.
Your future is in your own hands – You really are capable of doing anything you want in life. Yes you may be scared of following your path in case of failure, but no one can push you forward more than yourself in life. If you get a coach to help you then yeah a partner in crime to motivate you is a great way to make yourself happier and feeling great. If this sounds like a great option for you then check out my transformation program where I coach you everyday to finding happiness in your life. You can find out more here https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk
So they are my top tips on how you can find happiness. Believe me I have been in some dark places and had most of life’s disasters smack me right in the face. But when you take responsibility for your own actions, thoughts and feelings you become happier as you only have to be responsible for your own actions.
When you know that you had done everything you can to spread love, be kind and caring you know that any other events are completely out of your hands. Then when bad things happen you can put a plan together on how to turn them into happy events instead. Worrying about blaming others or yourself about your happiness will not lead to a life of a freedom.
Knowing that if you get up in the morning and make everyone elses lives better however will bring you the rewards you need and you will no longer need to ask the question of how to find happiness ever again.
So I hope you will join my transformation program and wish you all the very best in your future and letting happiness find you. Best wishes Scott
How to be happy in life is the question for today and my initial answer is stop trying to make other people happy and concentrate on your own happiness instead. There are loads of other tips and tricks I have on how to stay positive and live the life of your dreams so keep reading to find out more.
If you haven’t yet heard of the law of attraction then also make sure that you read this article and my story around how it worked for me and how I live a fulfilled and happy life by following the rules of the Universe.
My top tips on how to be happy in life
First and foremost you have to look after your own happiness first and foremost. When you are happy everyone around you will be happy too. It is a known fact that when you are in a negative state you create negativity around you but when you are in a positive state you attract positivity around you.
Tell your partner you adore them and remember the days when you fell in love and recreate them. Love is a great feeling of happiness and you and your partner need to show each other how much you still love each other.
Give your kids or friends a hug and tell them how happy you are to see them. Hugs are great for making you feel great and will put a massive smile on your kids and friends faces for the day too. We all need a little love now and again.
Try and have a positive outlook on life. Work out what you want to do with your life and set a plan to achieving it. Then everyday you can take one step forwards to having the life you really want.
Dream big and keep dreaming, then put plans in place to achieve those dreams. It doesn’t matter how ridiculous they sound, work out a way to do them.
Smile at people and have conversations with people you don’t know. Be open and flambouyant, we are social creatures and happiness comes when you are sharing moments with others.
Be kind to others and offer them help. Sometimes just giving someone a simple hand with something , can give you the rewards of gratuity and it all comes back on you again at some point too.
Blast off your favourite music and just dance around like no one is looking.
Work out at the gym and join some classes. Bring the fun to you and enjoy every minute of it.
Get out in the big wide world and have a massive adventure.
Organize a party or get together with your friends and family. Just make sure they help you tidy up afterwards.
Go and spend some money on yourself and get yourself looking all glam, handsome or beautiful.
Go down the pub and meet the locals and have a chat. You really do meet some interesting people doing this.
Rid your life of negativity. Don’t get involved with moaning and groaning about things. Get up and sort out any negative issues that need resolving.
Keep yourself busy with stuff that you really enjoy doing so the mind doesn’t take over with negative thoughts.
Plan things you want to do this year. Next year, look at holidays, houses whatever will give you something to aim for and achieve in life.
Do things that you get rewarded for. When people thank us or reward us for our efforts it is amazing how good you feel about the situation afterwards.
Join an event like a marathon or something that will get you looking forward to the day.
Bounce out of bed in the morning with a smile on yourself and get out in the World and spread happiness to everyone else you meet.
Happiness can be viral when you walk around smiling, try smiling at others and see the look on their face and you will get lots of smiles back.
Realize all our thoughts are just thoughts. When a negative one pop’s in, push it out as fast as you can with a positive one.
So they are my top tips on how to be happy in life but if you would like to know more and would love some help on your way then check out my transformation program https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk
In the program you will see how I turned a life of unhappiness into the life of my dreams using nothing more than spreading kindness and love to others, staying positive and keeping moving forward.
You see happiness really is a choice and you have to keep in mind that when you think bad things they tend to happen. Once you abide by this rule it is so much easier to stay happier in life because the alternative is to remain stagnant and unhappy and no one really wants that.
So get out there and live life and be you and enjoy every minute of it. Wishing you all the very best in your future Scott.
How to stay positivein life and view things in a different way is the subject for today. Sometimes you can do it and sometimes you just can’t but how do you stay consistent and on top of the World on a daily basis.
Well I have been through tough times myself and know how difficult this can be which is why I put my transformation program together you can find here https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk because it is a number of things you have to do in order to live a life of happiness and positivity.
The course will tell you all about the law of attraction and how it works when you use it properly and how it adds happiness and value to your life so you too can be happy again. Check it out or read my top tips below on remaining positive.
My top tips on how to stay positive in life
Life will have it’s ups and downs that is a given. It is dealing with these events however that will keep you staying on top of your emotions.
Negativity breeds negativity. It is strange the way our minds work but they quite often try to trick us with negative emotions. Sometimes it creates a snowball effect where you think one bad thing and a million others follow. Learning to recognize that these are just thoughts and can be turned into a positive emotion will stand you in good stead moving forward.
Practice smiling. Yeah I know sometimes you wake up in the morning and look at yourself in the mirror and think god damn I feel awful. But this is in your control and you can wake up with a smile on your face and make the most of your day.
Believe that things will get better and they will. Take your mind to another place where it is busy dreaming of what things you are going to do in your life. The places you would like to go and the things you would like to do. If you read the article on the law of attraction you will see that doing these things and visualizing them can bring great things into your life.
Surround yourself with happy people. Your environment is what will make you and if you are hanging around with negative people you will soon become one yourself.
Gratitude is a great way of being happy with what you have. It may not be a lot but sometimes when we look around is at the horror off other people’s lives we can take comfort that sometimes things could be a lot worse.
Believe that your life can be amazing. Do not listen to anyone else in life that tells you different. You can be whoever and do whatever you want to if you want it badly enough. Find something that is really passionate to you and keep doing it over and over.
Build a life for yourself that meets all your dreams. Most people are afraid of change but when you embrace it and move forward in life you will be surprised at how quickly happiness can come into your life. Read this article if your not sure what to do with your life.
Have fun a daily basis and get out there and have some adventures. Life really isn’t that much fun if you are just sitting around watching the tv all day.
Only you can make the choices in your life to ultimately set yourself free. You are the one that has to believe you can do it, you are the one that has to motivate yourself to do it, you are the one that has to push yourself forwards.
Have a do it now attitude and list out what you want to do and just go for it. It doesn’t matter if you fail at first, everyone fails but how often you get up and try again will give you an accomplished feeling in order to strive further and do more.
Don’t ever give up. We are all meant to have and live a fulfilled and fantastic life. Take life by the balls and just get out there and do your best.
Try anything and everything that people ask you to do. Be adventurous and just have fun. Smiling, laughter and fun are the greatest emotions and you should seek it everywhere you go.
Everything in life is a choice and if you take responsibility for your own destiny, you have no one to hold accountable but yourself. Understanding this can just give you the nudge to get out there and do more in life.
Don’t let others bring you down, don’t listen to their negative comments or negative points of view. Elevate yourself above them and set yourself apart by being positive and having a great attitude towards life.
I know all the above sounds easy when you say it out loud, but life really is a journey that only you can control and if you are determined to control it. Then great things will come to you and you will know longer need to ask the question how to stay in positive in life because you will be living it.
Have you ever looked at someone and thought darn it they are just too happy. Do you think it is a gift they were just born with? That they have some sort of immunity to unhappiness? Nope is the answer, my wife is an amazingly happy person and it isn’t because she hasn’t had a hard life she most certainly has. It isn’t because she comes from a happy gene pool or has been bestowed a gift in life.
It is because she knows that as soon as she doesn’t wake up smiling and be happy, all those bad feelings, all those bad experiences come and raise their ugly head. So she has learnt to put a smile on her face all the time because it works. When we put effort into ourselves and just force a smile out, then things around you tend to go better and you will have a better day.
When you wake up going, I am knackered, I don’t want to go to work, damn the kids are annoying me, I hate this life then it is no wonder that you don’t feel great. But if you say, it is going to be great day, I am not going to let anyone get me down, i am going to smile, I am going to stay positive. Then your life will change and unravel around you.
So I hope this article has helped you and do join my transformation program, it is free and you get to see me rebuild my life along side you so that we all come out smiling.
All the best wishes for your journey in life Scott
“What to do with my life” boy what a question right. You are sitting there confused, peed off thinking damn life should be better than this. What exactly am I going to do with my life. It is a question that we all ask ourselves sometimes when we think life should be better than it is.
Now the image above may seem insignificant but when a plant grows, it knows it is going to grow into a healthy big tree. In our lives however we are asked from an early age what would you like to do when you grow up. For most of us we just don’t know and what happens is the years fly by and we still don’t what to do with our lives we just know we want more.
In this day and age you can do anything that you want to. We live in a digital age where it is possible to learn anything and also use technology to our advantage. There are millionaire teenagers nowadays just from making YouTube videos.
Find something that you are passionate about or you have an interest in. Then learn more about it and if you decide it really does float your boat then use the law of attraction to help you find out how to turn it into a living. Sounds mysterious right? But when you put a plan together on what you want to achieve in life you will get there.
Think about all the things that make you happy. If something makes you happy then it is something worth pursuing. If that turns into an interest, you can do something like blog about it just like this blog you are reading. I love writing and I love helping people so sharing your message is a great way of finding out what you want to do with your life.
Think big and dream big. You really are capable of doing anything you want to. You just need guidance and help from the right people to motivate you to get there. Dreams are great but you also have to take action on them to see things through.
Get out there and have an adventure in life. Life really is for living and you really do only get one chance. Do something exciting, something that gives you a rush, something that makes you go omg that was amazing. Having something to look forward to will motivate you in ways that will carry you through any darker times in your life.
Spend time with friends and have a laugh. We really are social animals and should be getting lots of conversations going to fill your brain with ideas and also lots of laughter.
You don’t have to earn lots of money to be happy in your living. Materialistic things will make you happy for a short time but the things in life that matter and will fulfill your life are, giving love, hugs, sharing adventures, achieving goals and dreams. When you achieve things in life you are getting rewarded for your actions and we all need a pat on the back sometimes to make us feel great. When was the last time you did something and went WOW did I really do that? Yeah when you accomplish things in life it really does feel great.
Stop watching the tv and make a plan for your life. Work out where you want to go, what you want to do. What does your ideal life look like? When you work that out, visual it, see it clearly in your mind and then go for it.
Motivate yourself to do the things you want to. We can all have times where we sit on our bums and don’t feel like doing anything but when you get up with a clear mind and get on with things, it motivates you to do more.
Join the gym and some classes and get fit and healthy. When you are fit you want to do more, you want to have challenges in life. Whilst this may be a personal goal it will definitely help in motivating you to find out what to do with your life.
Get out walking and think clearly about your life. What do you like, what could be improved, what do you want? Walking adds great clarity to your thinking and with a clear mind everything will come to you about what you want and how you can achieve it.
Stop making any excuses. I’ll do it when, I’ll do it tomorrow, things will be better when. This will just delay you on your path. Have a do it now attitude and strive to have what you want in life.
You are just as good as everyone else, never let anyone tell you any different. If you want to do something, go and do it. Do not listen to others that try and hold you back. The World loves a trier and even if you fail at it, eventually you will find your path.
Doing something is better than nothing. Try lots of things, volunteer for jobs and see what they are like. Hang around with different people and groups until you find something that you really love to do over and over.
Stay positive, you might know today what you want to do with your life but tomorrow is a new day. Keep focused on finding out what your “why” is and in a moment of glory it will come to you.
So there you go my top tips on how to find out what you can do with your life. I put together my transformation program you can find here https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk it is purposely built to help you and guide you through transforming your life.
I have been in your shoes and to this day I have only just found my “why”. Whether it leads to anything or not is not the point. I am motivated to help others become the best they can be. I love doing it and it drives me everyday to spread my message and if I only help a couple of people improve their life then I have done my job.
What I do know is that if you really want to change your life, only you can do it. You control your thoughts, you control your actions and no one will come and motivate you to do it. But if you really want to change your life then the World is your oyster, because you will become one of the achievers in life and you will get what you want if you want it bad enough.
So I wish you all the very best in journey through life and finding your “why” too. All my best wishes Scott
The law of attraction can be an amazing phenomenon when used correctly and when you understand that it is a collection of things that get you what you want in life, then you can use it to your advantage.
Yes some of it is universal attraction and some of it is common sense. When you embrace it and use the tips below then you too will have a further understanding of why it works and how it can work for you.
There is so much information out there about the law of attraction and the secret and I have read pretty much every book there is out there on this subject. My first set of books was by Abraham Hicks and Esther Hicks. The main points you can take from them in order to live an abundant life is to ask the universe what you want rather than concentrate on what you don’t want.
The secret book was written by Rhonda Byrne and is another adaptation of the concepts and is linked into the secret movie. Both are well worth a read and a watch as Rhonda takes her own concepts and reinforces them in a slightly different way.
Bob Proctor has also produced several books and training programs on the laws of the universe and has some great concepts on how to succeed in life.
From my perspective all of the above are great reads to get into the understanding of the way in which the law of attraction can be applied in to your life. My concepts which I discuss more below very much concentrate on common sense and the power of the subconscious mind, so keep reading for details.
The law of attraction book will teach you how to manifest, what the rules of attraction are and the concepts of ask and it is given. The basics without going into too much detail at this point is that if you ask the universe for what you want then the universe will give it you. Now this doesn’t mean asking it for a ferrari and one will magically appear. It is more that when you have a path in life that you are determined to get too, then you will achieve your goals, which I will discuss in more detail below.
The Power Of The Subconscious Mind
Now where I start is making a point that the subconscious mind is the most powerful thing that we have. We have roughly 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts per day and I bet you that if you tried to recall any of them you would only be able to think of a few things. However your mind is constantly processing information around you that you aren’t even aware of.
This is part of where anxiety kicks in also because we are unaware of what is happening in our subconscious minds. Our minds however are assessing every situation we are in, at that point in time. As an example see below of what our minds process
What you are wearing today
What you are doing today
How is everyone feeling around you
Will I hit traffic on the way to work
Will I miss the bus
Who is that they look a little weird
Have I done everything I need to
I hope that bill doesn’t arrive today
I’m going on holiday next week have I packed everything
That is just a glimpse of what we might think in a quick idea. However, all of these thoughts that get processed every day tell your mind what you think of these given situations. So if you get up every morning and say I hate my job, life is crap, I am bored, I have no hope, I am unhappy, I am nervous, I am anxious. Then all you are doing is subconsciously telling your mind that the above is real and the more you tell it negative things the more unhappy it becomes, the more scared it becomes and when the situation rerises that brings out this emotion your mind says you are supposed to feel this way.
Strange concept isn’t it that through our own thoughts that we can make anything happen as we can convince ourselves of anything good or bad. Most of this is through education, I have had tattoos from a very young age and in those days they were frowned upon and people would think you were a scally or rough as houses, nowadays they are generally accepted as the rich and famous have them. However those people that were educated through conversation that tattoos make someone unapproachable will need to be proved wrong in order to change their perception.
This is where I see the law of attraction coming into things as when you overlook your education, you are open minded in your view of people, things and general life then it opens many more doors for you. It is a process of lots of things that lead to a state where the question how to be happy also comes into play. I also put my own transformation program together that you can follow that discusses all the steps you need to take in order to find happiness in life you can find it here https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk
So the next question is how use the law of attraction to your advantage
Realize that life is what you make it and that you are entitled to have anything you want in life. Also realize that things are not given to you, you have to go and seek them then work out a pathway to obtaining what you want.
Once you know what you want, then you can start to attract things to you. So as an example this is what worked for me. I wanted a new car but couldn’t afford it at the time. I walked past this beautiful Jaguar Xe R Sport and thought I want one of those. I looked on the internet and there was one very close to me I fell in love with. I phoned up and enquired and the guy asked me to put down a deposit on it. I waited for days thinking how could I possibly afford this, then the next minute I got a new job offer which allowed me to afford the monthly payments. Now part of this was the law of attraction bringing what I wanted, the other part was the fact I was actively seeking new jobs which enable the law of attraction to bring me an option of buying the car.
Keep your mind occupied with positive thoughts and what you want to achieve in life. Do not waste your thoughts or your life processing negative information. The only way to stop negative thought patterns is to do positive things.
Positive things, often come with rewards and recognition. As children we are given rewards and recognition, gold stars, badges and trophies but when we get older our reward system changes. So if you are working in a job where no one says thank you, there is no way to move upwards, it is generally like groundhog day, then you need to change it. Have you ever done something for someone and they haven’t thanked you? Yeah makes you feel like “why did I bother” and next time you will regret helping them. Rewards are really important in life.
When manifesting what you want, have a clear view of what you want. You may not know specifically what that is but you if you want a better job, imagine yourself in the ideal job and then just apply for everything. This is what happened to me. I got made redundant after 20 years, just as I had moved into a new home. The stress could have been unbearable if I thought negatively about the situation, but I didn’t I applied for every job out there, took long walks and was positive that a new job would come my way and it did. Also since that point I have no longer dedicated myself to my employer and believe that if you are unhappy in your job change it and I have numerous times since. These things will not happen though if you are not openly looking in the first place.
You have to be proactive in life. If you have a bill pay it, if there is something stressing you – deal with it, if you have jobs to do do them. Have a do it now attitude and this will clear your mind so you have clarity and can think clearly about your goals instead of thinking jeez I’ve got this to do , this bill has come in, what am I going to do. If you pile things up you will end up stressing and hence think negatively.
Never question yourself about things, have a clear path for every decision you make and stand by your decision. If you live to regret it later then just move on and see it as a learning curve.
You won’t get anywhere in life without failing, if you learn to accept failure then it becomes a habit to keep trying. The law of attraction will eventually help you succeed but you have to stay consistent with yourself to manifest what you want and need.
Consistency is key. When you visualize what you want, keep striving to achieve it and never ever give up because eventually you will get there. Most of us lose patience along the way on achieving what we want we are so close but then fall at the last hurdle.
Life is not about treating others how you would like to be treated but more about treating people with respect. If you are nasty to someone, expect someone to be nasty to you, if you shout at your kids – expect them to shout back to you. Most behaviours we can control ourselves by being kind, considerate and compassionate towards others. There is no point complaining about the way you are treated if you don’t treat people well yourself.
Believe that you can and you will. If you tell yourself numerous times you can’t do something you are setting barriers in your subconscious mind that are then very difficult to overcome. So just give everything a go and then make a decision whether you can or can’t do it.
Understand that you control your own thoughts. If you constantly tell yourself there will be a negative outcome to something then the likely hood is there will be. This is where the law of attraction will help you if you stay positive in every situation.
Just because something doesn’t work first and foremost, keep dreaming, keep visualizing and keep on that path. Do not let anyone let you stray away from your desires and your destiny.
Help others and they will help you too. The universe has a habit of paying you back with kindness so always seek to help others where and when you can.
Dream as big as you can can, keep dreaming and dreaming until you work hard enough to get what you want in life.
Keep smiling, do everything you can to put a smile on your face. Smiling and laughter is the best emotion ever along with hugs and cuddles. We are social animals and should always look on the brighter side of laugh. Move away from miserable people who only bring you down to their level.
So those are my top tips on making the law of attraction work for you and my transformation program will really help you get there. The biggest impact the law of attraction has ever had me however is meeting my new wife. Check out the details below to find out how uncanny this situation was.
You see one day my ex wife just decided to leave me, no arguments, no conversation, just didn’t want me anymore. So I at the time I didn’t know what to do with my life as everything fell apart.
I did the honorable thing and gave her the money to move into a new house along with my daughter as this was her wish. That left me on my own sad, lonely and not sure what to do. So I decided to record my journey in my transformation program and I set out on a path to use the law of attraction to get me what I wanted.
There I was sat in my conservatory one night looking out into the clouds thinking what do I really want. Well I love being around people so I thought right I need to meet someone new and this was my requirement of them below
They had to be beautiful so I could wake up in the morning and tell them just how beautiful they were.
They had to love children
They had to be athletic and go to the gym
They had to be at least 5ft 5
They had to have great legs 🙂
They had to understand how the law of attraction works. This was paramount as neither of my ex wives were really very positive about life.
They had to be a great laugh
They had to be able to communicate and talk about anything
They had to be caring
She had to be able to do the splits. Don’t know why I mentioned this lol
They had to be like Wonder Woman
Then I wrote all this down and even put a vision board together of all these requirements. When I went to bed at night I would read it over and over. I joined a dating site (you see this is the common sense bit) you have to do something first on your path to let the law of attraction manifest what you need. Otherwise wonder woman was not just going to walk into my life.
I went out on a few dates and to be honest it nearly put me off. The ladies had not really told the truth in their profiles and I had to let let them down and tell them I wasn’t interested. I am not very good at this and felt really bad. So I paused my profile and gave up for a few months.
Then I went on holiday with my kids and I had broken my wrist at the time from a mountain biking accident. It was a great holiday but something was missing, I didn’t have anyone to share the memories with. So on the last night of the holiday I was sat outside with a beer and thought I would open my profile again and give it one last shot.
I emailed this lady because she just sounded to good to be true. She came back to me straight away and we got on like a house on fire. We met and oh my she blew me away and we both fell head over heels in love with each other.
One night I was telling her the story of me writing everything down and wishing for someone just like her and that all my dreams had come true. The next thing she pulled out her keys and had a “wonder woman” keyring attached to it she used to give her strengh when she was down. That is when I really realized that when you want something badly enough, that you can see it and breather it the Law Of Attraction really will bring it to you.
As of today I am getting married to the most beautiful person on the planet on the 14th March 2020. So my advice to you is always stay positive, be kind, be inspirational, be happy, work hard, play hard and the law of attraction will work for you too.
Be good kind people and all my best wishes for your future Scott
How to stop negative thinking is the question of the day, but how do you stop those strange thoughts from taking over your day? Keep reading to find out how you can stop those thoughts in their tracks.
The first thing you need to know is that everyone suffers from negative thinking, it is a weird phenomenon that your mind brings negative emotions to the forefront of your thinking. These can be really strange and weird also but you are not alone, so first things first there is nothing wrong with you for thinking like this. So read my tips below on how to overcome negative thinking.
My top tips on stopping negative thinking in their tracks
Every thought that enters your mind no matter what it is, really is just a thought.
Some thoughts may sound strange and provoking in their manner but they are just a thought and they are not harmful unless you act upon them.
The more you tell yourself negative things the more your mind will think that this is true. For instance if you tell yourself you hate your job consistently then you will start to hate your job. The mind is a really powerful thing but you have to understand that you are the only person that controls it.
Negative things can happen in your life, this happens to everyone including all the rich and famous people. We have a mechanism called the flight or fight mechanism built into our own defense systems. When something gets triggered that you do not like it is likely that your negative thoughts will cause you to either fight or run away. Once you understand this is just a way of your body protecting itself you can understand why you act in certain ways.
I wrote an article on how to be happy with yourself, this is the starting point to making sure you eradicate negative thoughts from your life. So give it a good read.
When you look at things and tell yourself something is going to go wrong, there is what is called the law of attraction and it plays a massive part in all of our lives without you even realizing it. What it basically means is that the universe sends you whatever you give out, so if you are negative you attract negative things, when you are positive you attract positive things. So it is really important that you realize when you get into a negative state things will get worse until you turn it around and start thinking positive again. It is a bit like when you get flu if you don’t rest and take some tablets it will get worse.
If you have had a really hard time in life and that is why you are having negative thoughts then it might be that you might need to find out how to be happy again. We all go through testing times in our lives but when you look past these issues and plough forwards with a positive attitude things do correct themselves and get better.
What if I said to you that if every negative thought you had would come true. Like a magic genie every time you thought something bad it would happen, then I can guarantee that you would try your hardest not to think like that. This is how you train your mind to think positive by understanding that negative thoughts have absolutely no value or place in your life.
The very best thing you can do with negative thoughts is just dismiss them. Sounds easy but once you get the hang of this then life does become easier. Even simple things like wondering which route you will take so you don’t get stuck in traffic, just make a decision take that route and if you are late so what, it really doesn’t matter. Nothing matters if it is causing you stress out.
Gratitude is always a good one because things can always be worse and although comparing yourself to others doesn’t help. Sometimes we do just have to be grateful for what we have and we have the opportunity to be able to change things if we really want to.
Stop hanging around with dickheads who just moan all the time and never say nice things. this can be soul destroying and will just pull you into the same disastrous thinking patterns.
Surround yourself with people who have a more positive aspect on life and know that remaining positive is lifestyle and a way forward to making life what you really want it to be.
Distract yourself with something funny and get your brain on another plane that isn’t constantly battering you with these horrible negative thought patterns.
Strive to be the best you can in life, live, love and share happiness with your family and friends. Love really does help you feel great and will dissipate negative thoughts in their tracks by just having a beautiful big hug.
Negative thoughts are a bit like when you are child and you think there is a monster under the bed. You consistently tell yourself there’s a monster, get up tell your parents who then look under the bed and tell you there is nothing there go to sleep. You then go to bed with the covers over your head shaking hoping the monster will go. Was he really there, of course not but your mind can convince you off anything. If you got up and punched that monster in the nose and he ran off through your cupboard you would never see him again. So sometimes being scared can bring these negative emotions on but you just have to fight them and tell them to do one until they do.
Also as a child you never had a choice of doing things. You got told you would do something even if you were scared or anxious about anything. But I am sure you can remember being really nervous about something but once you had done it everything worked out absolutely fine by pushing those negative thoughts into the background.
So the above does sound easy right and sometimes changing a negative event into one that is positive is not that easy. But it is a lifestyle being positive and I put together my transformation program you can find at https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk which addresses the negative thinking aspect along with many more ideas on how to live a life full of happiness.
Feel free to check it out as I have been in your shoes and although it takes time to understand how life works, if you follow my daily emails and steps you will soon find that your life changes dramatically and you will no longer need to look for information on how to stop negative thinking.
I wish you all the very best in the future and on your journey to finding success, happiness and living a damn great life. Best wishes Scott
How to be happy with yourself, WOW where do we start with this subject. Happiness is the greatest achievement in life when you find it, but just how do you really find it. Let’s have a look at my top tips below and see if they resonate with you.
My top tips on how to be happy with yourself
Do not listen to others opinions. You are you, the one and only you and don’t ever let anyone put you down or make you feel unhappy.
Most of the time you cannot change who you are so becoming comfortable with who you really are is paramount to achieving happiness in life.
Look in the mirror and take a really good look at yourself. Don’t concentrate on the bits you don’t like. Concentrate on the bits you do, your great smile, your sparkly eyes, your hair and learn to love what you see.
Hang around with other people that inspire you and love you for who you really are. If you are struggling with this then read this article
Put a smile on your face and be kind to others. A lot of people are unhappy nowadays for lots of reasons, but if you take the time to smile at people it will make your day a happier one.
Have a plan of things you want to achieve in life. Don’t waste your time on social media or watching television. The World is an amazing place and you can achieve anything you want to in life if you are only willing to work hard enough to obtain it.
Give your friends and family hugs. Be open and caring, hugs are a great way to feel loved and love from others will really ignite your passion for life.
Don’t be scared off things. Everything is in your own imagination and your own thoughts. Tell yourself you can do anything you want to if you only put your mind to it. If you are needing a little happiness in life then read this.
You only get one life. Don’t waste a minute of it thinking this life is rubbish. Get out there and do things that bring happiness into your life.
Happiness is a choice, you choose whether to smile, you choose whether to be annoyed, you choose whether to be unhappy. Most of the unhappiness stems from not being fulfilled in life.
Do a job that gives you satisfaction and rewards. There is no point going to work thinking darn it I have this job. If you really don’t like it either change it or find things in that job that will make you happy.
Volunteer for things and make other people happy too. There is a lot to be said for giving to others and you could make someone very happy just by helping out for a few hours.
Believe that you will be happy and you will. Our minds are very powerful things and what we tell it is what it believes. So if you tell yourself you are unhappy you are convincing yourself that this is the case. The more you do it the worse the situation gets.
Get out and socialize with people. Talk to strangers, go to the pub and get yourself out there.
Exercise, although it is tough joining a gym for the first time if you are unfit. Once you get yourself fit and healthy you will love it and if you join some classes, not only will you meet new people but you will have something to look forward to.
Reward yourself, if you think you have done something great, give yourself a big pat on the back and tell yourself you are amazing.
No one else will provide the happiness for you, they can only contribute to it. If you are miserable then people will gravitate away from you. If you are smiling however people will gravitate towards you.
Jump out of bed in the morning with a smile on your face and a spring in your step. Motivate yourself that you are going to have a great day whether you feel like it or not.
Do everything you can to be yourself and say yes to more things. Do things that make you feel happy and that you are passionate about.
So all the above sounds good right but if you really are struggling to find your own happiness, things will only change if you really do something about it.
As I said above the issue we have is we can all have good and bad days but it really is down to yourself whether you enjoy a specific experience or not. If you tell yourself you are not happy you really won’t be. If you are doing something you don’t like or just generally unhappy with life itself, then do something to change it.
Life can be an amazing adventure if we open our eyes to the opportunities around us. Things don’t have to cost money to be amazing experiences and materialistic things will only ever give us temporary happiness.
Happiness comes from being happy in yourself, knowing you are doing the best you can, not listening to others criticism, having a plan in life, wanting to have adventures, go on holidays, experience life, see life for what it is, socialize and have fun. If you are missing these things from your life then that might be why you are finding it difficult to find happiness itself.
All of a sudden life won’t change unless you take the opportunity to make life what you want to make it. Surrounding yourself with things that make you happy is paramount. Being happy with yourself has to come from the inside and that is why you really need to look after yourself first and foremost.
So life can and should be fun so make the most of it, brush off all the negative emotions, always move forward, forget about the past, don’t let one person influence the way you feel about others, do what you want to in life and just keep smiling.
I hope this article has helped in some way and I wish you all the very best for the future Scott.
How to be more positive is the question for today and how you can follow the tips below to make yourself feel great. You see looking at things in a positive way takes time and lots of experience to be able to turn what could be a bad situation into a positive one.
So my tips below will show you all the things I have done to be more positive and the impact it has had on my life and everyone else’s around me.
My Top Tips On How To Be Positive
One really important thing that when you grasp it will change your life forever. That is, that you control your own thoughts, you control everything that happens in your life, you control your own feelings, you control your own reactions, you control your own outcomes in life. Yes sometimes situations do take control of things for you, but I will explain further below on this topic.
Our education and our environment in a lot of ways dictates how we think about things. So if all your friends and family have a particular view about something or don’t like somebody or something, it is quite likely that everyone else will have the same view. This is purely the way things work, as everyone wants to be part of a pack and most don’t want to stand out from the crowd. Therefore trying to be positive about something when you are surrounded by negativity about that thing will not help you progress forward.
I put together my transformation program to help people stay positive and stay focused in life you can check that out here https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk. Basically the program covers everything you need to do in order to have a positive view on life and I will talk more about this below.
Let me give you an example of turning a negative situation into a positive one. My wife was kept in hospital after a routine visit to check on our babies progress during pregnancy. We found out that my wife had something called HELPP syndrome and our daughter was also breech. Basically what this meant was that we couldn’t deliver her naturally and my wife would have to have a cesarean section. Doesn’t sound too bad right but the complexity was with the HELPP syndrome. So they tried to turn our daughter and couldn’t so the next minute they rushed her into theatre and I had to go into another room while they operated on my wife. Later on they brought my daughter to me and wheeled in my wife a few hours later due to complications. She was on morphine and was screaming in pain with hours of throwing up. I got kicked out of the hospital without even being able to talk to her and only the picture of my new little daughter I had been nursing for the past few hours. She was born early and on the day she was due to be born we had the worse snow ever and couldn’t get anywhere. So the morale to the story is that if they had never done that checkup and kept her in, the likely hood would have been that we would never have made it to the hospital due to the snow and my wife could have died. So sometimes just staying positive avoids other situations no matter how bad things seem at the time.
Never let anyone else’s conversations or opinions upset you. I see far too many people worrying about what other people think off them. If people do not like you for who you are then you really should find people that do. It is hard to be positive when you have others putting you down or not supporting you in life. Always surround yourself with others that push you to be your best.
Every situation you control in your life along with your reactions. My wife and I talk a lot and I can tell you honestly that when you have a conversation with someone very rarely do they hear the exact same words in the same way that you said them. Which means that if you are worried about a conversation you have with someone just ask them how they saw the situation. Then you can talk about the situation and come out with a positive result between you both.
If you look at everything in life as a challenge to overcome, it is so much easier to remain positive. When I say this let me give you an example. Recently I left my full time job for a contracting role which was meant to be for 6mths. This would have given me enough time to build up enough cash to look for the next position. However they terminated the contract after only 2mths. Now I could do two things panic or work my crackers off to get another contract. That is what I did and I found a new contract within a week with a great company I love working for. So when you take action against negative things and put a plan together to get yourself back on your feet things do happen.
The biggest thing you need to understand, it is your mind and it only reacts to things you tell it. The more you tell yourself something negative or positive the more likely your mind will react to it. So for instance if you tell yourself over and over that you are unhappy with your life, job or whatever. No matter whether you have a good day your subconscious mind will tell you that is not true because you have told it so many times that those things make you unhappy. So even if you don’t like your job, your relationship, try and see the parts of it you do like rather than concentrate on the parts you don’t. By paying attention to negative events it takes so many more positive thoughts to completely get yourself free from them.
Always do your best and be kind and considerate and give love and support to everyone. This will help you remain positive because if someone is horrible to you or treats you badly you can shrug things off, because you know it couldn’t have been anything to do with you. People find it really difficult to deal with positive people as a lot of people are so unhappy in their lives that they don’t like seeing others happy either. If this is you then you can learn to be happy again here.
Always believe in yourself and be kind too yourself also. It really doesn’t matter what other people say or their perceptions. If you look after yourself first and foremost then everything else will fall into place around you. I did a great video here on why your happiness matters.
Work out what you would like to get out of life. Without achieving things and being rewarded in life, we can get bored and feel that life is just not fulfilling. If however we say, I am going to change my job in 6mths and get more money, I would like to travel to xyz, I want to be the best water skier on the planet and have something to aim for then you keep your mind occupied with moving forward. This helps with being positive as your mind is occupied all the time with positive thoughts on how you are going to achieve things in life.
Unfortunately nothing comes to he who waits. So a lottery win or a great job, or a new house or new car isn’t just going to land in your lap. Unless you are extremely lucky of course. So get out there and get what you want in life and then positive things will start to happen to you.
Just keep smiling and don’t let others moods bring you down. If someone is unhappy in your life then stay away from them. Bad moods spread like wild fire and can bring you down too. So always stay upbeat and leave others to their own unhappiness until they decide to cheer up on their own steam.
Believe that life is what you make it. You can have anything you want in life but you have to work out what you want, stay positive and just go out there and get it.
So I hope you like my tips on how to be more positive and they have helped you in some small way. Don’t forget to check out my transformation program if you really want to learn all the steps to remaining positive in your daily life.
In the meantime I wish you all the very best in your journey through life. Best wishes Scott
How to be happy single – boy what a dilemna. No one really likes being on their own and single, so how do you bring happiness into your life when there is no one special to share things with?
When I became single for the first time in 15 years, boy it was so exciting at first, the things I could do, the places I could go and then it hit me like a ton of bricks.
I was on holiday with my kids and I had broken my wrist at the time so it was a trying time trying to get around and do things. After a really exciting holiday however on the last day I sat outside our holiday cottage on my own for a bit of peace and quiet. Then I thought what is missing, I had such a great time, but then I realized I had no one to share it with. That’s when I asked myself the question how can you be happy as a single person?
Here are my top tips on how to be happy single and loving it
Join a dating app. Yes I know there is lots of stigma around dating apps and the weirdo’s that appear on there. But there are genuine people out there that really are pretty special and want the same things as you do. I met my new wife on Match and to be honest I have never looked back. If you are open and honest and know what you are looking for they can be a great way of getting to know people first before any commitment. You can also read my journey from single to married as part of my transformation program here https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk
Make sure that you get out and socialize in anyway you can. We are meant to be around others and if you are spending lots of time on your own that can sometimes not be great for your mental state of mind. You can read an article I did on the subject of how not to be depressed you can find here. Below are some ideas to get you out of the house and mixing with others
Visit a local dogs home and see if they allow dog walking. It is great if you can’t have your own dog as you will be helping them out. Walking the dog is a really good way to meet other people, as well as everyone likes giving the dogs a stroke. You will enjoy the fresh air and get to meet new people.
Get yourself down to the local pub and have a chat with the locals. There are often some really great characters in there and you will meet lots of lovely new people.
Try out the gym and some fitness classes. Keeping yourself fit allows to become happy in yourself because you have a goal to achieve. Going to the classes is a fun way to meet more people and if the gym has social events then get yourself out there. I wrote a good article on how to be happy again you can also find here.
Invite friends round more often and put on a nice spread. Not many people feed their friends nowadays and socializing at home is great for elevating your happiness and making yourself feel good. Just make sure they help you clean up afterwards 🙂
Try joining a club. When I first became single I joined a local canoe club and everyone there was just awesome. We went away on weekends together with their families and kids and it really have me something to look forward too.
If you are a bit shy and don’t like any of the above just give it a try. The more you do something the easier it becomes generally. If you really can’t do it, join some Facebook groups on something you have a passion or an interest in and join in the conversation.
Pick up the phone and have a good old chat with mates. Phone some of your friends you haven’t spoken to in years and have a good catch up. I think people forget nowadays due to social media that they don’t need to phone people but really is good catching up with friends.
Remember that happiness comes from within and yes sometimes we can be lonely but we have to do everything we can to stay positive and also live life without regrets. Sometimes it is a struggle being on our own but hopefully with the above you will at least find one things that you might be able to do to be happy as a single person.
If you need help along the way then feel free to join my transformation program as you will get help from me everyday for 60 days to start a living a life that you can enjoy and also it will keep you busy for a while also.
“How to not be depressed” is the question today and it is a really important subject seeing how depression plays a major factor in today’s society.
Depression can be an illness and also a state of mind which we all tend to suffer at some points in our lives. It can be debilitating and you may not want to even get out of bed in the morning but it can be dealt with and I will give you my favorite tips below on how I dealt with my depression and came out the other side.
My Top Tips On How To Not Be Depressed
Don’t be too hard on yourself. Suffering from depression is confusing at the best of times. Even if you think you have everything in your life you can still suffer from depression.
One of the ways I overcame my depression was by creating this blog and sharing my passion of overcoming anxiety and living a dream lifestyle. You can find out more about it here https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk Sometimes talking and sharing your emotions is the best thing you can do. Some people won’t get it and others will and some will simply tell you to get over it. Don’t take anything anyone else has to say to heart though as they are not you and they won’t understand why you feel this way.
Remember materialistic things will only temporarily make you happy. If you want to become happy again read this article. It might just give you the inspiration you need. When you buy something it will give you temporary happiness but it won’t solve your problems.
Depression can be initiated by so many different things but if you concentrate on the below you won’t go wrong.
Life is about accomplishments and rewards. When you do things and you get rewarded, then you always have a sense of achievement in life. So if you are going to work or at home and you are not getting rewarded for the hard work you are putting in then change things. Everyone needs to be rewarded for what they do. If you remember when you were a kid you got stickers, trophies and all sorts when you were good and won. When you are an adult however it seems most of the things you do get taken for granted. So join a team or do an activity which has an outcome that makes you smile.
Do not let others put you down, make you feel bad or stop you from being your true self. Anyone that does not add value to your life and big you up to become amazing stay away from.
Other people generally do not like the fact other people are happy. A lot of people are sad or depressed nowadays because people have lost the art of communication. Having a chat with strangers people you know or generally just having a laugh with friends will always raise your spirits.
Get out there and do some different things in your life. Try and find some inspiration and something that will give you happiness. You may not know what that might be, but if you try lots of different things you will find something that you are passionate about and your thoughts will revolve around that instead of concentrating on your depression.
Realize that you should not take your past as a signal of what the future looks like. People that have upset you or done bad things to you are only a small fraction of the people out there on this planet. There are plenty of other people that will look after you in the right way and love you for who you are.
Always be yourself, you are capable of great things, no matter what anyone else tells you. We are all great at something and we just need to find out what we are great at and do more of it.
Be kind and considerate to others. Despite whether other people are rude or horrible, never bring yourself down to their level. Be you and walk away from them with your shoulders held high.
Know that everyday you are on this planet you have a choice to change. It might not be easy but you control your own thoughts, you control your own mind and once you realize everything is coming from you, it makes it easier to understand it. For instance no one really annoys you, it is just your reaction to them that makes you annoyed. When you just say heah ho never mind dickhead and walk away, you refuse to change your mood through the injustice of others.
Have a plan in life and get out there and enjoy it. It doesn’t matter how crappy you feel, force yourself to get out there and get some fresh air. Think about what you can do in life to make it more enjoyable.
Realize you will have bad days and don’t think everything is going down the pan just because you have a bad day. Then pick yourself back up again and get back on that horse.
Refuse to give into it, fight it, shout at it and tell yourself you are going to have a great life, you are going to get better. Our minds are funny things and once you tell yourself a million times you are depressed, you have to tell it 2 million times that you aren’t to counteract those initial thoughts and feelings. Our brains are like a computer storing information all the time, so subconsciously when you recognize yourself saying your depressed, change it to, crikey I’m having a bad day but it will all be good tomorrow.
I know the above sounds really simple and depression really is a nightmare and you will know that. All you can do is fight it and that is why I put my transformation program together to try and help you fight it. So be sure to check it out and I will help you along the way in your journey.
If you would like to find out more about depression you can find some interesting videos on YouTube here. You can also research more on google on how not to be depressed here
I wish all the very best of luck in your future and hope you manage to beat your depression. All my best wishes Scott
“How to change” what a question and you will no doubt find a thousand answers. But change comes to us all as we experience new things, new people, new jobs, new families and adapting to those environments do often cause for change to the way you deal with things.
The thing is though is you do not need to change who you are or what you believe in. This might sound contrary to what you are thinking but if you think you need to change to make someone happy, make someone love you, or just change your behavior because you have a trait you don’t like, then you need to adjust your mindset and not change who you are.
What is the difference? People can change but it is mainly down to being educated and environment. For instance it is really hard for a prisoner to change his background when being educated because he is still surrounded by other prisoners with a different mindset.
However if you educate a soldier to be the best soldier on the planet and he is surrounded by like minded people then he can change the way he is to adapt to his surroundings.
Now when I say that you need to change your mindset and not yourself. What I am referring to is other people’s opinions and quite often or not you can never change that. If they are mean to you or don’t like you it is always going to be very difficult to win them over.
By accepting these things however your mindset changes to understand that their opinion does not add value to yours and you can treat them normally without being undermined by their perception of you.
Deep down we all have our own personalities and are all very special in our own way. Most of the way we see things in life are through education and environment. Which is why some dogs are vicious through training and the same breed with a loving home is a big dafty.
So here are my top tips on how to change if you want to
If you feel that you need to change anything it has to be because you want it to change and not because other people need you to. Unless you recognize the need to change then there is no point thinking about it.
People are cruel and may tell you that you are not good at something or some other evil things but if they add no value to your life do not listen to them.
Everyone will thrive in life with the right education and the right environment. So surround yourself with people that love you and support you for what you are. Anyone that is critical for no reason at all, get rid of from your life.
Sometimes we don’t need to change we just need to treat people in a slightly different way. For instance if you know that something really annoys someone and you keep doing it they are going to get mad with you so change is good here in that you recognize it and stop doing it.
If you have an addiction then you very well might need to change. You should see this as a positive however and surround yourself again around people that really want to quit the addiction. Not necessarily people who are living through it, but people that have conquered it and give you the view that you can overcome anything.
Sometimes we are just stressed so learning to deal with this and anxiety can sometimes lead to change. Meaning that you change your habits, so you are not rushing around, leaving things to last minute, letting things build up etc. These positive changes learning to relax and change the situation are normally good improvements to your lifestyle. I put together my transformation program to help you with issues just like this you can check it out here https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk
Change is good sometimes. I quite often look at myself and think what could I do to improve myself. I could be more patient, I could tell my wife and kids I love them more. When you recognize things that you can improve about yourself then this allows you to be happy again. It really is empowering when you can self criticize yourself and change yourself for the better.
We aren’t all right and sometimes hanging out with different people can make you see things from a completely different point of view. These types of things through education make you change naturally as you move through life as your perception of things change too.
When you take responsibility for your own life and don’t let others opinions, moods etc upset you. Life is so much easier being responsible for your own feelings and then not having to change yourself you just deal with others as you need to.
There are times however you might want to change because you want a better job, more money and all that good stuff and that is great. Just stay consistent get with people that encourage you to do well and share your dreams with them.
So they are my top tips about how to change if you want to. Please do feel free to check out my transformation program because life is so much easier when you look at it from a completely different perspective.
If you are kind, give love and help others then it is difficult for others to criticize you anyway and as I’ve said when you know its not you then you don’t have to change. Just adapt to the people around you and know that you are doing the best you can.
Wishing you all the best in your search for a prosperous life. Best wishes Scott
“How to be happy” is the question of a lifetime. Over 40,500 people search for happiness on Google every single month. So what is the answer to finding ultimate happiness?
The one thing we really all need to understand is you cannot find happiness, it is something that you bestow on yourself. There are lots of reasons for this and I list them below so hopefully can find your happiness too.
My top tips on how to be happy
How to be happy tips
Happiness is created from within Once you realize in life that you control your emotions, then you understand why happiness, anger, insecurities, anxiety, love are all emotions that you control. You choose to be angry, you choose to be happy, you choose to love. There are lots of reasons for this but ultimately those thoughts and feelings are one’s that you control yourself. Keep reading to find out why.
Don’t let others control your emotional state Most of the time our happiness seems to be controlled by the way others around us act. That is true because we can get upset, we can take things the wrong way and we can make ourselves think insecure things by the things that happen around us. But what if that person didn’t really mean what they said, what if you interpreted it in the wrong way? The one thing you can train yourself to do is to overlook these situations and just think “really” and move on. If you don’t you will continue to question their motives and probably make yourself feel bad as a result of this. So if you are annoyed with someone or unhappy with what was said then ask them the question and you will soon find out. But when you know the truth you can normally accept the answer and the pondering about what if’s can make you very unhappy indeed.
Don’t let others control your life Happiness comes when you are in control of your life. This doesn’t mean you being selfish but means that you make the decisions, you control your destiny. When someone is controlling you, you tend to feel trapped and no way to get out. So always do things in life that you are happy with and not to make other people happy. Other people should be happy seeing the smile on your face when you are engaged in things that you love.
Have a plan for your life This is not goal setting but if you want things in life, new house, new car, new job, new clothes etc. Then don’t sit there dreaming about it put a plan together to obtain them. One of the things that creates happiness is moving forward in life.
Always keep moving forward Don’t get stale in life and think this is all it is ever going to be. It is not, life is what you make it. Regardless of education, background everyone has a talent and everyone is special including you. So just keep aiming for the stars and keep your mind occupied with all the great things you want to do in life. Then get out there and start achieving them. Knocking things off your list will be really rewarding.
Never be scared Our own confidence sometimes can get in the way of things. But you have to remember that failure is going to happen. You don’t become good at something without failure. So don’t listen to the critics that put you down along the way because you will wipe the smile off their face later. So always just have a go, who cares if people laugh at you, they mean nothing and add no value to your life so learn to ignore them.
Understand life is fully under your control Once you realize in life that you are the one that controls your thoughts, your actions and not anyone else. You can then divorce yourself from keeping other people happy and just concentrate on yourself. When you concentrate on you, you know you have done the right things so anyone poo pooing you is just an idiot and should be ignored. It is really a great state of happiness when you realize that you are the only one you really need to keep happy and then everything else will unfold around you. If you need help join my transformation program at https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk where I will help you along the way.
Knowing what you want Some or all of happiness comes from knowing what you want in life. What makes you smile, what are you interested in, what passions have you got. What would you like to do with your life. If you don’t what to do with your life then that is the starting point for you.
Getting rewarded From when we are children we are rewarded with badges and trophies, stickers and stars when we do good things. This carries on through in life and when you are rewarded for things you get a warm fluffy feeling inside. So if you are a stay at home mum make sure your hubby rewards you for all the hard work that you do.
Achieving something Achievement is a great emotion. Once you conquer something or you win a race, get that job, pass your exams etc then you feel great. Yes sometimes you fail which we talked about above but generally when you set out to achieve things in life there is nothing better than getting there. So always have something to achieve in your life and happiness will find it’s way.
Be kind to others One of the things I often see is people being unkind, now when you control your own emotions you can overlook these things. But most people can’t. It doesn’t matter whether you are having a bad day, are stressed out, being kind always matters and this will stand you in good stead for the future.
Realize Karma really does work Karma is a real thing and you may or may not have noticed it in your life. But the universe has an amazing ability to deliver the same thing straight back to you when you give it out. So always give love, always be kind, be patient and that is what Karma will deliver to you. If you are unkind and shout at people and your kids then don’t be surprised if they do it back to you. Happiness really does come from what you give out and it is really hard for people to be horrible to kind people.
Stop boredom Boredom is nasty and will get you into trouble. So always keep yourself busy doing something. Keep yourself moving forward as above and you will always have something to do.
Be grateful You might not have everything you want in life but be grateful for what you have. If you spread love and kindness too then this will follow you and if your plan to achieve the things you want is in place, you will soon find they come to you quicker than you think.
Don’t let social media get you down A lot of people now look for happiness through social media. They see all these stars earning loads of money and have a talent everyone loves. You post something and no one likes it, you then feel bad about yourself and bad emotions break out as a result. So always just be happy with yourself no matter what others responses are, it is you that matters.
Love your self Yep you may not be happy with your hair, your complexion, your height or whatever. But you are you, that very special person that has lots of amazing things to give to the world. You just have to find the people that see that in you and push you along the way. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder and there will be lots of people out there that love you just the way you are.
Say yes to things Don’t be shy. If someone asks you to do something give it a go. It doesn’t matter what it is, if there is a chance you will have fun doing it then do it.
Keep smiling Life can get you down and it can get hard sometimes, that happens to everyone. If you concentrate on the bad things however they only get worse. When you turn a bad thing into a positive and keep smiling, then good things will eventually happen.
Believe in yourself Yes, you really can do anything you want to. If you had the best coach in the World next to you training you on your interests. Then you would be great at it. However in most cases you will be your own trainer so believe you can do it and you will be able to, no matter what it is.
Enjoy life Wake up in the morning with a spring in your step, look at the beautiful things around you, smile at people, tell your loved one’s you love them, work hard, play hard, keep moving forward, set goals, achieve goals, be kind, give love, dismiss those silly thoughts, know everything will work out and happiness will follow.
So there you have it my top thoughts on how to be happy. I hope you found it an interesting read and I really do hope you find your happiness too. Best wishes Scott
“What can I do today?” That is the question and if you are sitting at home board then we have loads of ideas for you to do today. Take life by the cahoona’s and get out there and have some fun with our tips.
Here are my top tips on what you can do today
What can I do today ideas
Get outside in the big outdoors Most of us live somewhere close to a big park, mountain or somewhere where we can just get out in the fresh air and have some fun. I remember when I was a child we used to play soldiers in the woods but as an adult I guess you think you can’t do these things but guess what you can.
If you love animals If you are a dog lover have a browse around your local area and see if there are any dog homes where they offer dog walking. This is a great option if you cannot have your own dog and you will be doing them a massive favor along with getting outside in the fresh air.
Get down the pub and have some lunch If you have a local that is booming with atmosphere get yourself down there and socialize a bit. It is great meeting new people and there are normally some funny characters in your locals.
Get out some board games If you have the family sitting around, get them off their phones and do the good old fashioned board game thingy. Kids love the interaction and at least it will get them off their tech for a while.
Volunteer for something There are loads of needy people out there that could do with your help with something. Think about the elderly people local to you, could they do with some company? I bet they could and old people are great for telling stories and running back in history. So go and visit someone today and help them out.
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Visit friends or family When was the last time you had a real good laugh with your friends or family. Sometimes we are just too busy for a proper catch up so take the time now to see who is about for a laugh while your thinking about what can I do today.
If you are single Join a dating app and get yourself out there. Yes there are some weirdo’s and crazy people out there but there are also some amazing people just looking for love and company too. I met my wife on there and couldn’t be happier.
Hit the gym Stop making excuses about getting fit and get out there and join the gym. Get into some classes and meet new people and friends whilst getting fit at the same time.
Read some books Get yourself down the library or pull out some books you have. Education is really important and indulging in a good book is great for the imagination and you will pass the time quickly.
Plan your future out If you are asking the question I don’t know what I want then it might be a good idea to start seeing where you want to go in life. Write down everything that makes you happy and you are interested in and set some goals on how you can get there.
Get some retail therapy Everyone knows spending money feels good. Go and treat yourself to some new things and get spending.
See what’s on locally Have a look in the paper and see if there are any local events going on that you can go too. Just getting out and about away from the tv is always a good idea.
If it’s raining Go puddle jumping and sliding in the mud. I used to have the most fun with my kids. The wife wasn’t happy the state they came back in but it was so funny just goofing around and getting wet.
Put on a good film or go to the cinema A great film can keep you captured for hours and stop the boredom from setting in. Watch a good comedy to get you laughing and raise a smile on your face.
Put on your best tunes Sometimes just blasting out your favorite tunes and dancing away in the front room or your bedroom is enough to put a smile on your face and keep you busy.
Decorate Go and get some paint and brighten up your walls. Not normally expensive and you can transform your place into a new habit with some lovely colours.
Get cleaning If your really bored blitz the house, you’ll get in some good exercise the place will be dazzling and you will have earned some rest for your lunch out or your film on the sofa.
Don’t sit in all day on your computer Sitting in all day and doing nothing is the worse thing you can do. Waiting for people to message you back, or flicking on FB or insta looking for something interesting. You will just be bored and unhappy and won’t enjoy it very much. So get outside and have some fun and get yourself smiling.
Make a decision Don’t confuse yourself with too many things to do. Just choose something that will float your boat and get out there doing something.
So there you go when you ask what you can do next time you have loads of options to go for. Life really is about having fun and enjoying every minute of it.
Whenever you get board just get out there and do something. Doesn’t matter what it is just keep yourself busy and smiling.
I hope you enjoyed this article and I wish you all the very best for your day. Best wishes Scott
Boy “I don’t know what I want” is such a dilemna to be in. It doesn’t matter whether it is something simple as making a decision on your tea, to your partner, your job, your life it is a nightmare aaghhhh.
So how do you work out what you want in life and what will ultimately make you happy that is the question. Well I am pleased to tell you that I will be giving you some awsome tips on finding out. So when you say to yourself I don’t know what I want next time you will have the answer sitting right there in front of you.
My Top Tips On Deciding What You Want In Life
I don’t know what I want top tips
Go with your gut It doesn’t matter what you are thinking when you are unsure of what you want. First and foremost you will have that gut feeling whether it is right or wrong. Go with your gut and you won’t go wrong.
Don’t be put off by others Once you have gone with your gut feeling it is likely you will want to share your decision with others. This is something all of us do when deciding what we want and is not uncommon. The problem is however is that someone else’s point of view might be completely different than yours and this can spread doubt in your thought processes. So take what they say onboard but stay with your gut feeling as you are the one that has to live with the decision.
Look at the positives and negatives If you are having to make a decision about anything. It is also a good idea to write down the negatives and positives of that decision and the impact it will have on you. You shouldn’t do anything in your life that does not add value to it. Remember that because if you go through life making decisions that you think other people will be happy with you will put your own happiness at risk.
Take your time Don’t feel as if you have to make a decision there and then. Not many things need an instant decision and time to think about it properly will come to you in moments of clarity. Watch this video on clarity to help.
Don’t regret the decision you make Whatever you decide to do. Stick by your decision, even if something goes completely wrong at least you will learn from the experience and won’t make the same mistakes again. Life is all about making mistakes and if you can live with your decision. You will feel great whether it works out or not. If you are thinking what should I do for a living then check out this article
Don’t be scared to go back on your decision Sometimes we do make quick decisions and regret them later, that is just natural. Don’t feel like you cannot change your mind however, we are all allowed to make mistakes just explain your situation and take it back if needed.
Be positive about your decision If you decide on something then look at it from a positive perspective and know that it will work out. The hard part sometimes is just deciding, but follow your decisions through with lots of vigor until they work out. If you don’t know what to do with your life then click here
Smile Once you have made that decision put a big smile on your face, move forwards and just be happy with the decision you have made. Smiling is a great emotion and this will also let you know that you have made the right decision moving forward. Watch this video for inspiration
Only make decisions that add value to your life Anything you want or need should be to add value to your life. If it isn’t going to improve your life in someway or someone else’s then it is probably not worth doing in the first place. So think every time when you don’t know what you want whether it will truly give you any pleasure or happiness by doing it.
Try everything once If you don’t know what you want to do in life, relationships, work and it is a much bigger picture then start off with one thing and start writing down goals or things you would like to achieve and that will make you happy. Then you can try them and if you like them great if not move onto the next one until the decision on what you want to do will be made for you.
I hope you found this information on I don’t know what I want useful and if you would like to have a helping hand to enjoy your life. Then please feel free to join my transformation program at https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk where I will motivate you to be the best in life, give kindness, find happiness and live a life you truly deserve.
In the meantime I wish you all the very best in your quest for life. Best wishes Scott
Have you ever notice how many times you question yourself about something. How many times that inner voice tells you to either do or do not do something. Sometimes the most bizarre things can pop into your mind. Not even related to anything in particular but just there so you go darn where did that come from.
It really is something that we all have to deal with and something we can all learn to control if we follow some simple rules about listening to our inner voices and taking control of them.
So here are my top tips on taking control of your inner voices and taking control of your life.
The things that go on in your mind are just thoughts and only thoughts.
You can control your thoughts by learning to ignore the crazy stuff that comes into your mind. Just laugh and go darn where did that come from.
We have to think about our future and where we want to go. If we dwell on the past the past will always be there to haunt us.
Putting ourselves in a good mood promotes great thoughts. Did you know that scientists have proven that a smile at regular intervals throughout the day can combat stress and anxiety. If you aren’t doing this watch this video here.
If you beleive that you can do something you can. If you beleive you can’t do something you won’t be able too. Whatever we literally tell ourselves over and over makes it so much harder to overcome anything.
Take small steps with your mind by coaching it to be happy. Happiness is a choice and when we control our own thoughts, we also control how we take other people’s feelings towards us into account also.
Most people have no idea what they are saying will upset you or make you angry. It is you that takes things personally and makes an issue of it. When you can learn to just look and go heah really I know you didn’t really mean that, that you can then train your mind not to worry about things all the time.
We destroy our enjoyment by saying to ourselves, this is rubbish, this could be better, wow really did they just say that. Learning to overlook things in life and just see the positives is a really hard thing to master but once you do. Life takes on a whole new meaning.
Be kind to others. Being kind means that you know you are not doing anything wrong. So when someone openly has a pop at you, then you know it is their problem not yours and you can hold youself higher by not rising to the challenge all the time.
Learn to love yourself and your mind. Tell your mind you love being happy, you want to live an exciting life, you want to have everything you deserve. Once you start telling your mind this it really does start to believe it. Some people call this the law of attraction. I call it common sense. When you take control of your thoughts you do attract the things that you want in life. Watch this video for further inspiration.
Life can be hard if we don’t take control of it and we just let it pass us by. If we believe that life holds nothing for us then it won’t. If we choose however to take control of our lives and chase our dreams then life really does open up in new ways.
To me starting the day in a good way is the only way to go. If you set yourself up by getting out of bed on the right side then the rest of the day will go however you want it too.
There is nothing worse than waking up in a bad mood or being with someone who is in a bad mood too. I did a video on my morning routine you can find here if you want to know how I start the day.
Here are my top tips on waking up in the morning
Take your time waking up. if you have a partnet give them a massive cuddle and a kiss tell them they look amazing. Give them a tickle on the back and spend some quality time with each other before starting the day.
If you wake up in a bad mood thinking that you can’t stand going to work, you hate your homelife or whatever it is. That is the way you are going to feel. If you are not enjoying your work then watch this video.
Put a smile on your face. When you look in the mirror go darn it I look good today. Even if you are aware you might have an extra greay hair or you look battered from the day before. You need to look at yourself and think darn I look good.
Put some good music on that will get your heart pumping as you brush your teeth and wiggle your bum to your favourite tune.
Say gooood moorrniiing to your kids even if they jump on your head at 4am they are just really pleased to see you and the time doesn’t last long when there young. So enjoy every moment of it.
Turn of any bad news on the tv in fact switch the tv off altogether and sit down with your partner and your family and have a chat about the day ahead.
If you are on your own write down your plans for the day. If you haven’t got any then make some. We all need to have someething to look forward to at the end of a hard day so get yourself a hobby and do something different today.
Say hi to someone on the way to work and have a chat with them. A lot of the time we have lost the art of communication and sometimes you will meet some awesome people if you just give them a smile and engage in conversation. Watch this video for inspiration.
Happiness really is a choice. I know I have been in the deepest darkest places and once you let unhappiness conquer your thoughts it consumes you quicker than an elephant sucking up a peanut. That is why you have to put a smile on your face. If you don’t everything around you will just suck in more and more unhappiness. Check out this video about the law of attraction for how this theory works.
I hope all the above helps you to smile throughout the day. I know what it is like to live a life where you are under valued, unhappy and feels like it is going nowhere.
I also understand how difficult it is to change your attitude and your lifestyle so that you actually enjoy everyday. I went through hard times myself and as part of that I video’d my journey on how I found the life of my dreams. It will help you too and all you have to do is join me by watching the videos in my change your life transformation program you can find here. https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk
I hope you have a wicked day, life and wish you every success in the future Scott
It’s hard sometimes to stay in a good mood isn’t it? There are so many influences everyday that can make you just want to curl up in a ball and pull the covers over your head.
But how do you learn to deal with all the things that could potentially put you off having a good day? How do you make sure that no matter what happens throughout the day you can keep smiling? I did a really interesting video you can find here on the topic too. But in the meantime below is my list of everything you can do to make sure your day is full of cheer.
Communicating with people is paramount in your relationships with your partner, friends and children. If they are annoying you the best thing you can do is work out what is wrong and fix it as soon as possible. You can read more about that here.
Happiness really is a choice and you can choose whether to let things get you down or whether to rise above it and just keep smiling through it. I did a really good video on why you should smile at others you can find here.
Don’t let things get you down. It is easy sometimes to become annoyed with things that happen but when you just overlook them and think damn I am not going to let this spoil my day then things do become easier.
Just because someone is in a mood now doesn’t meant that they will be later in the day. You never know what is going on in other people’s minds so give them some space until they come around in their own time.
Find a hobby or something you really enjoy doing everyday and you can always look forward to the time you spend doing that.
Give yourself some space and time too. Our lives can be so busy nowadays that quite often or not we don’t get any peace and quiet to ourselves. So take sometime out just to unwind.
Always think that everyday is going to get better than it is today. That is if you are having a really bad. I was so frustrated the other day it was unbearable and I just had to take off on my bike before I started arguing with everyone for no reason. Sometimes our own frustration just needs dispersing in some way or an other.
Learn to give others a little space when they get in from work or arrive home. Sometimes there is nothing worse than arriving home and everyone is jumping all over you when you just need 5 minutes to settle in before you put that smile on your face again.
Smiling really is a great emotion and if you are finding that you are in a bad finding somethin fun to do can lift your mood. I love playing with my kids for the simple reason that you can see how much energy they have for life for absolutely no reason what so ever.
Look around you and see everything with open eyes. When you have the time to enjoy your surroundings and life itself then you can see the beauty that surrounds you. If you aren’t anywhere you can appreciate it this then take a walk into the country and enjoy it there.
Phone a friend that cheers you up no end and just have a laugh and a catch up with them. Half the time now we rely on social media or texts or but there is nothing better than a real laugh with your friends.
Organize a night out at short notice and go for a well deserved beer or wine with your friends.
Put some music on and just have a dance around and act like a goon for a while until you put a smile on your face.
It really really can be difficult to stay happy at times I know that I have been there myself. But now I just take the view that I am lucky to be here and enjoying life and just make the most of it.
When you become bullet proof to other people’s moods and the things that annoy you then you can just take life in your stride.
If you would like some help in enjoying a better lifestyle and overcoming the bridges of unhappiness then join me on my 60 day transformation journey where I will help you get there. You can find out more about it here https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk
Hope you have a happy and smiley day. Best wishes Scott
How much do you listen to other people? In today’s society it is easy not to listen to people because of the distractions that occur on a daily basis. Phones pinging, Watsapp dinging, facebook messenger ringing you name it there are so many distractions it makes it hard to concentrate.
By listening to others though and using the art of communication it is amazing what you can find out, not only about yourself but about others too.
A good example of this is mental health. It is an embarrassing subject for a lot of people and takes an enormous amount of courage to get things of your chest. However over the years I have been working with people talking about these thoughts and feelings you will find that so many other people feel exactly the same way.
As another example I had a lovely lady working for me who phoned me so upset she was in tears. Someone on a conference call had really upset her and she didn’t know what to do. She thought she was doing a really bad job and took everything this lady said to heart.
After talking to her about it at length I asked her whether she had asked this lady why she had acted in the way she did? Of course she said no as no one really likes confrontation. When done in the right way however confrontation can be used as a learning tool.
So I advised her to call this lady and say that she had taken the information she had given personally and that she wanted to fix things before they got out of hand. To her surprise the lady said that she had been suffering from really bad back pain and was in absolute agony and she didn’t realize her behaviour.
She profusely apologized and the two of them now had a relationship that bloomed through honesty and collaboration. You see unless we openly communicate with people and listen to them we have no idea what is the cause of the problem.
The same rings through for children. My daughter who I absolutely adore us currently 6 years old. Occasionally she will have an outburst in the car and just start shouting at me for absolutely no reason. Now I could do the normal thing and shout back at her which would probably just make her even more angry.
Or I could ask her some questions. How are you feeling? Do you feel frustrated? What is making you feel like this? Do you feel sad? What we can we do to make you feel better? Would you like me to be quiet for a bit?
By listening to their answers you will be surprised at what they come out with. Generally they are just frustrated, excited and full of emotions that they just cannot control. The thing is if you take all this personally it is you that is taking this to heart when actually they are just venting and will stop shortly.
I normally wait a while and then tickle her leg and smile at her and then she usually starts laughing and we can start again. Then she is more open to telling me about how she is feeling emotionally.
By listening this makes things so much easier to help others and understand their behaviour. Sometimes we just have outburst, we all have them but the instant reaction is to just shout back but as you have probably realized this just does not work.
If you want to know more about getting your kids to respect you I did a really good video here you can check out.
Listening sometimes will also point out your own flaws too. In relationships it is so important to listen to each other and your feelings. After all we all want to be happy and to be loved but how can we achieve this if we do not know how the person is feeling?
I always ask my fiancé to tell me what is on her mind because I have realized that in every situation that we are in that she will see a different side of things than I do.
I could say something that I have no clue would upset her or make her mind go off on a journey and question herself as to the answer. We all have a tendency to jump to conclusions and make our own view points. This however can only ever be balanced or resolved when you both understand exactly what was meant in the conversation.
Listening is interesting, hearing about how people feel helps you to understand your feelings too. People will tell you all sorts if you engage them in conversation.
I have met so many people on my journey through life that have helped me dramatically improve my life through opportunities that they have offered me. I did an important video on looking for opportunities you can find here.
When my last wife left me out of the blue although I couldn’t change her thoughts or feelings I still listened to her. I still asked her what I could do to improve myself so I didn’t do the same things again and make the same mistakes next time either.
By listening to her I found about myself which I was extremely grateful for and I have carried this over to my new relationship and it really has allowed me to make sure that I cherish every moment I have with my new fiancé.
Self criticism is a really important thing to learn in life. None of us are perfect and we all make mistakes. But if you can take feedback about your behaviour you will be setup for life because you will be able to control situations and relationships much better in the future.
Just listening and learning and not judging others will open your eyes to a completely new world. I did a video n being nice to others and the power of conversation you can find here.
If you would like to improve your life in everyway and live a life of happiness then feel free to join my transformation program where you will get daily videos on improving your life and how I improved mine. You can find out more here. https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk
How In control do you think you are of your own thoughts? Do you recognize when you are being completely unreasonable? Are you able to resist the temptation of speaking before you think?
They say that most of us are all crazy in some way and that if you locked everyone in a room and put a speaker through our ears that the thoughts we had to ourselves would make us all look mad as hatters. I did a video on the very subject you can find here.
You see our thoughts really can run away with us sometimes and you can think and imagine that the craziest things are going to happen. It also takes an awful lot of effort to rain those thoughts back in again.
I am not sure whether it is our survival mechanisms that make us questions everything and then assume that everything will turn into a disaster first and foremost. You don’t have to let these types of thoughts control you however and once you actually learn to brush them to one side and turn them into a positive thought instead life really does take on a completely new meaning.
I discovered this by going through hard times myself and now being on my 3rd marriage I have learnt that those thoughts really can ruin everything for you if you hold them in yourself and don’t communicate exactly how you are feeling. This holds true to talking about these strange thoughts with both your partner and your children.
Talking openly about the way you are feeling just lets people know that what is on your mind and let me give you an example. My new fiancé is absolutely adorable and I love her to death and wouldn’t ever want to be away from her.
The other day however I was in a foul mood, doesn’t happen very often but everything was going wrong. My internet connection was going up and down and I couldn’t hear anyone on the conference calls I was making, a book I ordered and was excited about reading came without the CD I was expecting, I couldn’t get a CD burner working with Windows 10 and well the day was just shizer to be honest with you.
Then my fiancé said a couple of things to me in jest and I took them completely the wrong way. I bottled all my emotions up and then just stormed out the house and went out on my bike. The reason why is I knew I was going to start saying stuff that I would regret if I stayed around.
By this time my fiancé to be honest had had enough of me being a moody arse and when I came back I apologised and let her know why I was frustrated and that the things she said I took in completely the wrong way. However she took it that I meant she had upset me and then thought that I was falling out of love with her.
This then obviously led to her mind racing about all sorts of strange things and it is quite easy for the situation to escalate. Luckily however we have both learnt to take criticism with each other and know that we would never intentionally want to upset each other in anyway what so ever.
But sometimes you just cannot control your moods, your thoughts and the way you react to things. It is just our nature, but what you can change is being open and honest with the people around you to show why you were thinking that and why you acted in this way.
So here are my top tips on controlling your thoughts and trying to act sensibly in life.
Think before you react. Reactive behaviour really does trigger of lots of avenues that build themselves and build themselves to create even more problems that don’t even need to be there.
Talk to your loved one’s share your emotions and laugh when you know you are being completely outrageous and acting like a dick. Sometimes we just cannot help it.
Never go to bed peed off with your partner. Stay up and talk until you resolve your position and give each other hugs and kisses and maybe a bit more if you can squeeze it out 😉
Be kind to yourself. Every situation can be determined completely differently than what people actually mean and say. Give others the opportunity to explain what they meant.
Learn to back down when you are wrong or unreasonable. Sometimes we have defensive mechanisms that make us argue more and for no point or reason either.
Look at life with open eyes and see that your own thoughts are what makes the world go round. Our own thoughts control our emotions not other people or situations. We have the power to make any emotion a positive one if we choose too.
I wrote another article on finding happiness in life that you can find here too. I have learnt a lot of things through life by analysing my own behaviour and others and you can grasp that life really is what you make it and that you are in control of your own happiness then life really does open up into a great adventure.
Controlling your life and dealing with stress and anxiety isn’t an easy journey though. Once you realize that your thoughts are just thoughts though you control your own destiny by exchanging those bad thoughts with good one’s.
If you would like any help at all getting your life back on track and finding true happiness then join me on my transformation journey where I will show in a series of daily videos how I managed to turn my life around for the better. You can find out more here https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk
A really interesting topic I thought I would write about today for the simple reason that so many people really seem to struggle with finding happiness in their lives.
Are you happy in your life? Do you feel like jumping out of bed in the morning and saying DAMN I am looking forward to today? Do you sing from the roof tops and dance in the rain?
Probably not is the answer because life is stressful right? One minute your up then your down. You want to be happy but every time you think you have found it is seems to disappear down the drainpipe like the rain on a showery day.
So can you change this in your life? Of course you can let me explain more below.
You see with age comes knowledge and I myself have been in some crappy situations in life and some that I have just thought you know what this just cannot be what life had in store for me.
Then I lost everything out of the blue a decision my ex wife made to leave me. No questions no answers just threw me to the wolves. The feeling I felt at the time of knowing that I could not be with my beautiful daughter again was the most horrible feeling I have ever felt.
From that day forward I changed my life forever. I vowed that I would never put someone else’s happiness before mine ever again. Because without knowing it I had done everything for everyone else and become unhappy as a result of my actions. I did a video on this you might find useful here.
I started reading lots of really useful books on personal and self development and one thing really stood out to me. What if happiness really was a choice. What if you decided whether you were happy or not. What if you took control of your life back from the selfish souls that try and drag you into their dungeon of unhappiness. What would happen then?
So that is what I did I stopped listening to other people. I decided their opinions although valued where just opinions. That how I took those opinions and how I acted on them was down to myself. The way I viewed life was now through my own eyes and not anyone elses.
Then I realized that life really is what you make it. You choose to let people upset you, you choose to be unhappy in your job, you choose not take life by the balls and do something about it. A really hard message I know because all of a sudden you change your aspect on life to one that makes you in control of it.
There isn’t anyone else to blame for things, there is just you and the decisions you make and whether they are good or bad one’s you can face them because you made them.
Not being guided by what other people think is a liberating experience because people will always critisize you and have an opinion on whether you are good enough to achieve what you want in life.
Well forget them, the only person you should listen to is yourself and when you make yourself responsible for your actions then you become responsible for your life itself. The only person you have to question about your achievements and your life is you.
By taking this attitude over the past year I have made all my dreams come true. Some people call this the law of attraction and many other things. I call it the common sense method of life.
Simply because when you approach life by being kind to others and sharing love and happiness, life has a habit of rewarding you with similar people. When you are spread misery and unhappiness life rewards you with the same result.
So here are my top tips on finding happiness so that you can also use them in your life too.
Learn to communicate. For every conversation you have someone you will learn that they see a completely different side of it than you. No one is right or wrong in an argument you just both have different view points.
Be kind to people. Kindness costs nothing and when you spread it yourself it will come back to you.
Learn to smile even when you feel like crap. Smiling really does help to lift your mood. Just look at others when you pass them on the street and say hi.
Do the best you can at everything regardless of whether you want to or not
The World needs great people who are courageous and willing to help others make sure that you become one of them. Helping others really is a great feeling and I did a video of becoming a better you here.
If something really does pee you off do something about it. If you just complain all the time the situaition will just continue to do your head in.
Realize that you can have anything you want in life as long as y ou are willing to put in the effort to get there.
Life really is and can be what you make it guys. Make your own reality , make your own happiness. Do everything you can to look at your situation and make it better. Quite often you have nothing to lose by trying and having a go you just have to get rid of those limiting beliefs that stop you from getting there.
It really takes about 6 weeks to change bad habits so just start your day with a smile and if you need help on your journey to change your life then join my transformation program today where I will help you alng the way. You can find out more here https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk
So the best of luck on your journey and I hope to see you on the program soon. Best wishes Scott
If you are sitting at home bored and thinking what should I do with my life. Then you are asking the right question. Often or not many of us really don’t know what to do with our lives.
After all when your 16 and choosing a career do you really know that you want to become a Doctor, Lawyer, Psychologist etc..? I personally don’t think you do in the majority of cases. But what I do know and what I can help with is finding happiness in your life so when you ask the question what should I do with my life that you take these tips into consideration first and foremost.
Here are my top tips on changing your life for the better
Always think about what makes you happy first and foremost and don’t ever think you are stuck with the first idea that comes to mind. We live in a connected World were you can find education on any topic at any time and therefore don’t restrict yourself to a single job type as you might find you hate it.
Try different jobs with different companies. Often or not it is not about the job itself but more the people you work with, the comradery, fun and the results you get. So whilst one company may be a bit crappy another company in the same job could just be amazing.
Life is about happiness, it’s not about sitting there wasting your time making excuses. We can have anything we want in life if we are only willing to follow a path to get there. If you want to change your life and become a better person then check out this article I did here How Can I Change My Life And Become A Better Person
Find a passion that you are interested in and something that really makes you want to do it day in and day out. Being passionate about your work really is paramount in having a sustainable and fulfilling lifestyle. It might not always be achieve able but you can change your paths whenever you need too.
Dream as big as you can. Sit down and think every day about what you want out of life. It will probably start of with materialistic things like I want a nice car, a nice house, a big family, lots of vacations. But once you work out what is important to you then you can work out how you can go and get it.
Remember that kindness pays and when you are kind to people you will be surprised at what opportunities can present themselves to you. Many business owners now want people who are passionate, hard working and client orientated rather than just someone with qualifications. Having conversations with people you don’t know in the pub or walking down the street can lead to interesting adventures I promise you.
Just try loads of things and see what really puts a smile on your face. I really do think life is so much easier when you are generally happy anyway. When you look at things with a positive outlook everything else just seems to come together and fits into place.
Write everything down that you would like to change about your life and what you can do to have the biggest impact first and foremost.
Learn to say yes to the right people more and no to the wrong people and surround yourself with people who support your views and future .
Stay away from negativity as it is so easy to get pulled into other people’s troubles and before you know it you are complaining about life with them and joining their club. This is your life and if you do dream big I promise you wishes will come true.
Look at everything around you and see how big the World is. There is opportunity everywhere. Just be you and find your talent or interests and go out there and show the World what you have to offer.
Help others to get to where they want to be and by actively encouraging them to do well and supporting them you will get the same back yourself.
Just enjoy life for what it is. Create laughter everywhere you go and have fun. Don’t let all the noise and the troubles make you think that your life needs changing. Recognize the position you are in might need improving but you can always afford to have a laugh with your friends and family even when things don’t seem that great.
Believe that you can have a great life, that you deserve a great life. The only limitations are the thoughts you have that stop you from doing what you really want to do. Don’t let others persuade you otherwise either it is amazing how jealous people can become of others, especially when they see you succeeding in life.
So they are my tips on the question what should I do with my life and believe me I constantly ask myself the same question all the time.
I have worked out a system though that keeps me on top of my game and the anxiety and stress of having a good life at bay. It is a set of daily videos that can help you change your life too by changing your perception and living life. So please do feel free to join me at this link https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk
Wishing you all the best of luck in your life adventure Scott
If you are thinking “how can i change my life and become a better person” then you are opening up your life to a World full of possibilities.
You see most people think it is everyone else that is the problem but when you can constructively look at your self inside and change your thoughts and feelings to improve your life. Then your life will change dramatically.
Read my top tips on changing your life for the better below
Recognizing that your life can be improved is the first step on the ladder. Often or not we put up with a life of compromise but never truly really become the great person we were meant to be.
Often or not we have hopes and dreams but make excuses in obtaining them. This is the hard part to get over if you want to improve your life. Because you will have to make a conscious decision to get out there and start making changes.
Changes to your life can be fun, intriguing and as long as you see them as a learning curve when they go wrong there is absolutely nothing wrong with trying anything and everything to improve your lifestyle.
Being critical in your thinking is paramount. If you treat people with kindness, fun and love then you will never need to look inside yourself when people treat you badly because you will have known you have been the best you can be.
Don’t let other people hold you back. Many times people will be unsupportive just because they haven’t got the balls to do some of the things you want to themselves.
The main things you want to be looking for when changing your life for the better is your own internal happiness. You must remember that money, fame, fortune will not make you happy unless you are happy in yourself, your family life etc… So concentrate on them first and foremost.
Making changes to your life can be something small or it can be something big but ultimately you have to control your own destiny and try and find out what makes you smile and what makes you want to get out of the bed in the morning.
When one part of your life makes sense and you are happy you can generally put up with all the other troubles that come flying in. Overlooking all the problems in your life and staying on top of your happy emotions is paramount.
When Changing Your Lifestyle For The Better you really want to have a plan in place so you don’t have loads of crazy thoughts running through your mind. This will just make you feel overwhelmed that everything needs to change when in fact a lot of things are normally linked and therefore concentrating on one thing at a time will bring the most success.
You can look at making small changes like your appearance, the way you perceive things, the way you interpret things very quickly. If you take time to process your thoughts and deal with everything in a positive manner it is amazing how quickly your life will change. This is due to the law of attraction and wishing for things that you want and not things that you do not want.
Happiness comes from within and choosing to make the most of things is the best course of action. Yes it is not easy to have a happy disposition on things all the time but you feel so much better when you let all the stresses of life pass you by. After all nothing is more important than your sanity.
I decided to change lots of things in my life because I knew that I was overweight and that dictated a lot of the time how I felt about things. After now losing it all and getting fit I have a new look on life because my body is fit my mind takes care of itself. You can find out more about my weight loss here
Your life is the most important thing to you and if you are living a happy life everything around you will start to fit into place. So you need to concentrate on yourself and put yourself first sometimes, do the things that make you happy and then look after everyone else later.
But life can be hard and a struggle and I get that as I have been there myself and when you are down it is really hard to get up and be motivated. But if you are still asking how can I change my life and become a better person then why don’t you check out my change your life transformation program.
It is a set of videos that walk you daily through making small changes that will ultimately when implemented and used daily will change your life for the better. You can find out more about it here https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk
Wishing you all the best in your transformation journey Scott