So this is the 23rd video in my transformation journey program “How To Have The Perfect Relationship” and not that I am a relationship guru or anything but I have learnt what makes a good relationship and what makes a compromised relationship. You see love is the one thing we all need so why do we put up with a relationship for the sake of it? If you haven’t signed up to the full program yet you can do so by visiting this link https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk
Hi and welcome back again. So in the previous video we talked about kids. Yeah. And how lovely they are. Yeah. But you have to treat them like, you know, the little mini adults. Look after them, care for them, cuddle ’em, kiss them, talk to them. you know, just, just be like the best friend really. Do you know what I mean? Because kids are adorable. They really are. When you spend time with them, they’re really, really funny. But you have to take time out outta that busy life, outta that busy world. Cut your feelings off from all the stress, the hassle, and everything else, and just enjoy them and have fun with them.
Yeah. And like I said, if you lose all the weight and you do the keto thing, or you know, you start getting fit, you’ll be able to keep up with them, have fun with them, and they’ll go, dad, you can run faster than me, my boys later. Yeah. But it’s good fun. ’cause it won’t let them win. Just Yeah. No chance. Yeah. So today we were gonna talk about relationships. Yeah. So you guys know I’ve been through two marriages now. Yeah. So I’m not gonna tell you the in depth stuff because it’s all in the past and stuff like that, you know what I mean? And I’ve always been a little bit too kind to women, really.
You do everything for them, put yourself on a back burner, you know, give them your heart, everything. Treat them like a princess and everything else. And I’m not saying That, you shouldn’t do that because sometimes people change. Yeah. And, and that is the reality, you know, is you can control yourself. But unfortunately, if you’ve got a partner that all of a sudden changes and isn’t the way that they were before, it makes it really, really difficult to maintain a relationship. Because relationships are hard work, right? You’ve got someone else, That you have to talk to all the time.
You’ve got somebody else looking over you, you’ve gotta report to them. you know, you’ve gotta tell ’em what time you’re coming home from the pub and all that good stuff, you know? And sometimes you clash, you might argue and everything else, but you know what, right guys? It’s meant to be fun. Relationships are meant to be fun. The feeling of love is a glorious feeling that look in someone’s eyes when you see that glint and you know, they absolutely adore you. It’s an amazing feeling. They should ball it up and sell it and chuck it out to everyone, you know? And the world might be a better place.
But relationships are hard. But they need nurturing and they need consistency. It’s like anything else in life, you know, when you recognize that your relationship is taking a turn for the worst, nip it in the bud. Do something about it straight away. you know, buy those flowers, you know, buy nice things. Spend time with each other. Take time out. you know, get someone to look after the kids. Just, you need to be together as a couple. Talk to each other. Communicate. you know, if something’s on your mind, tell them straight away.
Don’t let things boil up to levels that you know, every little tiny thing. Build up into a chaotic, mountainous mess. you know, where there’s just a big explosion and you can’t forgive each other and you hate each other. And you’re walking away and you’re going, God damn, I hate this relationship. It’s crap. you know, I wish they’d just bug off. you know? Because when we talk about the law of attraction and the positives attract positives and the negatives attract negatives, well, you start telling yourself that you’re not happy with your relationship.
Walk out the door, man. And that’s exactly what happened to me. you know, with my second wife, you know, we had some really, really difficult, stressful, absolutely unbelievable stressful times. It took its, it took its toll on us. you know what I mean? It took its toll on us to the point where we probably stopped being nice to each other. you know, we didn’t feel like being nice to each other. We both did each other’s ads. Then both became grumpy. you know? And if a new now or if a new then, well, I know now then that might not have happened.
But, you know, you can’t change their mindset. But never be in a relationship that is, is is not full of love. Laughter, fun. you know what I mean? You’re there together. You’re a unit, you’re a team. you know, you’re there as a big bond. And like I said, you can convince yourself, if anything. So even if you know for some reason you find your partner unattractive anymore, if you all of a sudden say to yourself, no, they are attractive. I remember what they looked like when we got married and they were hot, man.
You can convince yourself that they’re hot again. You can do That. you can make your man think anything you want to. If you don’t believe me. Practice it. Practice it every day for a week and say, man, my husband, my girlfriend, they are beautiful, man. They are absolutely beautiful. And you will start to feel like that. It’s like the happiness and everything else. Yeah. But you need that spark. You need to keep that spark. You wanna keep that spark. You wanna feel in love. It’s a magical feeling. It’s a magical feeling that should be shared. It should be done every day. But you need to give, you both need to give.
You both need to recognize when you’re down, give each other a cuddle, look after each other. you know, make special moments with each other. Because if you’re in a relationship that’s not like That, you are wasting every day. You’re wasting absolutely every day. And if it’s not gonna go anywhere and later on in life, you’re gonna turn around and say, what did I do? I’m unhappy. you know, I’m not happy about this. And I’m not saying go and leave your partners or anything like that, because obviously there’s massive consequences to it. What I’m saying is, you know, I’m lucky.
’cause I have actually fallen, absolutely had over heels in love with the most beautiful woman I, I could ever dream of. But that’s me. It’s not what might be happening to you, you know? And in your relationship at the moment, if you’re not happy, you have to do everything you possibly can to make that relationship better in every way. and if you can’t make it better, then think about what you’re doing. Think about what, where you’re going because you’re meant to enjoy it.
You’re meant to be with someone that wants to wake up in the morning, wants to see you, wants to jump around the bedroom with you when you’re smiling and you’re happy. you know, somebody wants to text you during the day. Hey baby, how are you doing? I hope you’re having a good day. I’m thinking about you because I love you. Do you know what I mean? That’s, that’s what life should be like. Happy love, surrounded by nice things buzzing off each other. And that’s what relationships should be like. You ever see a couple where you go, oh my God, look at them. What a beautiful family.
But you know what? They’ve probably worked really, really hard to be like that. And I guarantee you they’ve probably been through some really, really tough times. But they’ve stuck together because they’ve learned how to work it through to gel, to keep that glint in their eye, to make it work, no matter what, to be committed to someone and do anything for them. Like in the wedding vows, you know, stay on top. But it’s a hard world. It’s tough world that we live in now because we are all working. We are all tired.
you know, it’s easy to get grumpy, but don’t take it out on your partner when you come home from work. Don’t talk about work. Leave work at the door. Yeah. Like work. Tell you to leave your personal relationships when you walk into work. Leave work at the door. That’s not what’s important. What’s important is making your partner feel good. Yeah, I can stick on some sexy underwear or something. you know, greet him. Hey, you know, I truly put a smile on the face then. you know what I mean? And I know that’s probably a bad example. ’cause most people don’t feel like that. Now.
Do they normally knock it to have a cup of tea, watch the telly, or whatever it is you do. But like I said, if you lose all the weight, you’ve got loads of energy, you never know might be a good thing. Yeah. But love is really special guys. If you’re not in love, rekindle your relationship. Put everything you can into it. Sit down, talk to your partner, say, you know, look, we’re not happy. This isn’t working. What can we do? How can we make this better? How can we get that glimpse back in our eyes? Yeah. You owe it to yourselves to be happy. You owe it to them to be happy. You owe it to your kids to be happy.
You owe it to your family to be happy. Forget all the crap and all the rubbish coming in and you know, all the stress and all that stuff. Leave all that behind. Concentrate on your family. Concentrate on your partner, particularly each other. Have fun. you know what I mean? Make life fun. Yeah. That’s all I’m saying. Okay. So that’s my relationship advice, not a guru. Take it with a pinch of salt. Yeah. But I’m hoping this time I’ve got it bang on and life’s good for me in that department. I’m really, really happy, man.
So hopefully you’ll be like me soon too. So the next video we are gonna talk about, do the best you can at everything. Yeah. Okay. So. I will see you in the next video. Take care for now. Alright. Bye now.