This is the twentieth video in the daily series of the transformation journey in which I challenge you to change your life and your ways of thinking. If you haven’t signed up for the free course yet you can do see via this link https://changeyourlifeforever.co.uk
Hi again and welcome back. So yesterday we talked about believing in yourself. Yeah, And. it was a really, really important point because if you don’t believe in yourself, you know no one else will. Yeah. Once you have confidence and you build that confidence by believing in yourself and doing things over and over again, then life really does change for the better. So believe you can do stuff, go out there, do it, have a go, have a crack. Just make it enjoyable. Yeah. So today’s lesson we were gonna talk about why you shouldn’t listen to anybody else and given Monkeys about what they think.
And I hope you like my little chili facia. This is my dad, which is a good job. I’ve got it because I had to spend three months near when my wife told me she didn’t love me anymore. So he is my savior, Mr. Chill out man. Chill out. Always chill out. Always take life easy. Always keep smiling. You should know that by now. Yeah. But anyway, other people’s opinions don’t count, guys. Yeah. Unless you’ve done something really, really stupid, unless you’ve done something really, really wrong and you know you’ve done that wrong, but a simple apology should correct that.
But people are always gonna be critical. Even when they’re encouraging you to do well, they’re gonna be critical. And you know, it’s really important, That, you understand why they’ve said the things they do, what impact it has on you, you know? But don’t listen to what they say because you know, as we go through the video series, you’ll find out about jealousy and all sorts of other things. you know, people mean well sometimes they don’t mean what they say either. you know, sometimes things are just a slip of a tongue.
And if you take it personally, it’s you that eats yourself up. It’s you that goes and thinks about it over and over, over again. Oh my God, so and so said this. Am I really like that? you know, and you can choke yourself up. And actually it was just a slip of the tongue from that person. So don’t take what people say too seriously. you know, if someone comes up to you and says, you’re not doing your job, you know, we’re gonna fire you in a week yet, take that seriously. Do you know what I mean? There are things That you, you do need to think about. If your partner comes up to you and says, you know, I don’t like you doing that, then take that seriously.
But in general, don’t worry about what other people think about you. Your overall own happiness is what is important, you know? And if you find yourself surrounded by people that don’t un don’t have the same values as you, don’t understand the same things as you don’t think the same as you, then go and change that. Hang around with people that do understand those values. That. you do enjoy being with that. Do encourage you that do believe in you, that do support you, that do help you to move forward.
And those people are out there. you know, I’ve learned a lot, especially over the past six months. I was quite shy, you know, I didn’t really like going and asking people for things, you know, going and doing things. But since I’ve been on my own, I’ve been forced to, I have to, you know, there is no choice. So, I, go to yoga classes and there are all loads of, you know, beautiful women there. And I often feel, oh my God, you know, I’m such a moppet, I can’t even stand up properly. Nevermind stand on one leg and bend over and all this stuff. But you go out there and you do it anyway.
I don’t care what they think of me. I’m not doing it for them, I’m doing it for me. So they may laugh, they may jig it, it may cause them, you know, some fun, but I actually don’t care. And when you don’t care, like we’ve discussed before, it doesn’t stop you from doing anything because you should be able to make fun of yourself. You should be able to see in enlightened situations, you know, sometimes we all get narky, we all get moody. We all say things we shouldn’t say. We should apologize more, we should apologize less sometimes.
But we don’t need to take everything so seriously, just take everything with a pinch of salt. Don’t worry yourself about it all the time. If it’s a really important thing. And yet, obviously digest it. Take the time with clarity to really understand what that meant. But don’t give a monkey is what someone else thinks of you. It doesn’t matter. What matters is whether you think you are a good person, a kind person, a genuine person. You do everything you can in life to bring value to you, your family, your friends.
And if people come up and say something, so what? So what? Who caress? Yeah. Don’t torment yourself about it. Just don’t torment yourself. you know, it’s funny, my kid said to me, dad, you’ve got an a neck beard. You need to get rid of that. And it. Boy, you know, I could’ve taken it quite offensively, but actually, you know, they’re 16 and 14. They’re hip boys, you know? They know what looks better on me than I do. And I’m actually quite grateful ’cause I haven’t got a wife anymore to tell me whether I look okay or not.
Now relying on the two teenage boys, which can be quite critical. you know, I, I showed one of my teenage boys some of the videos, and he is like, yeah, dad, you know, sound quality could be improved. You could do this, you know, change the logo, do this, do that. I was like, yeah, and I appreciate what you’re saying, dude, but everything is related to speed. Yeah. Now, if I took the time to make sure everything was perfect, this message would never get out to you. I would never get this message across to you because I’d be too busy making everything perfect.
Yeah. When actually the idea is, is just to get the message out to you. ’cause fundamentally, the 60 day video series, it all adds up to all those little bits that makes sense in life. Yeah. Which is why depression, anxiety, stress, all that stuff, there is no one fix. It isn’t like you can just go and do yoga And, it will go. Or you can do meditation, And. it will go, it’s a combination of things. And it’s a combination of not caring because you know that you’re doing the right things. You’ve done everything you can to do everything right.
you know? And just understanding that other people, they’re entitled to do whatever they want to in life. They’re entitled to tell you that you’re an idiot. They’re entitled to tell you they don’t wanna be with you anymore because they don’t like your father on the leg at night or whatever it is, or
Speaker 1 (5m 57s): Whatever the reason is, people are entitled to do whatever they want. The person that gets hurt is you. And how you interpret that, how you interpret yourself, and how you let that bring you down, when it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter. All that matters is how you think yourself. and if you are a happy person, if you wake up in the morning, you jump up and you are smiling and everything else, and you are doing everything you can to enjoy life, to make sure other people enjoy life around you, then if somebody says something critical, it doesn’t matter.
’cause you go, yeah, not interested. You don’t go down the road. Yeah. But lucky your life, lucky you, you do this, you do that. But that’s how we react sometimes. Yeah. So when my wife left me, I have, I obvi, I obviously hated her. Do you know what I mean? She took my world away. But when I sat down at thought watch it, I thought, well, she’s not making me feel like that. I’m making myself feel like that. you know? And she’s entitled to do whatever she wants in life. And I wish her well. I hope she’s happy. I hope you know she’s happy with my daughter and everything else because bitterness and hatred will only bring me down.
And we’ll discuss all those things later on. Yeah. So don’t give a Monkeys what anyone else see says or sees because they see it in a different way than you will ever interpret yourself anyway. So don’t ever, ever worry about it. Don’t give me monkey. Okay. Okay. So that’s the end of today’s video. So the next video is change your mindset, change your Life, and I’ll see you in the next one. Alright, take care everyone. See you soon. Bye-Bye now.